We'll be fiding out. We did with DS, and will again this time.
I agree with a PP who was talking about labour being enough of a surprise, and not once during my labour did I think 'oh I can't wait to meet my boy'. Um, no. It was 'OMG this hurts', and 'breathe in, breathe out' Along with my fave 'and it burns burns burns.... the ring of fire.....' after the middie mentioned crowning. LOL
I have a son already. Whilst I am not at all fussed if I have a boy or girl, I think knowing will actually help it feel more real to us. We seem to sit back and not do alot until the morph scan. This way, we know we have to chose a name for one gender, get clothing etc, and have time to bond with the little on inside a little more.
I am usually 'told off' by people for deciding to find out.
It doesn't matter what you do, there will always be someone telling you differently
We decided not to find out this time (our first). Our reason came down to the fact that we had gone through months of fertility treatment and IVF/ICSI to fall pregnant. I felt like all the "spontaneity" of falling pregnant was taken away from us. Everything was so micro managed that even though it was such a wonderful moment when we found out we were pregnant, it wasn't the same as if we had done it naturally.
So, I wanted to regain some of that surprise factor. It was such a hard thing for me to do though! It was so tempting at our 20 week scan to find out... but my DH and I had made a committment that we would wait.
I think it is such a personal decision and people shouldn't judge either way.
With #1 - we definately didnt want to know. It didnt matter either way and we were excited about the baby if it was a boy or girl.
With #2 - DH didnt want to know, and I did. We were now in our own home and i was decorating and wanted tonkow if i kept DD's things or not from her babytime or if i should go blue lol. Dh said it would ruin the surprise.. i told him we didnt even ask if DD was a girl or boy as we were more excited to see if the baby looked like me or DH (we are very different lol... me redhair and pale and DH is greek hehe).... so that was more of a surprise than gender for us... like a competition on whos genes were stronger! ahahahahahha
Anyhow .... We decided to find out.
My reasoning for DH was - we only get one life to experience, we didnt find out the first time, and now i wanted to experience seeing something ont he scan and getting excited earlier!!!
Also we were bad at names and i didnt want to fight over a gender;s name if we didnt need to lol... so finding out it was a boy was better so we only needed one name! (no we didnt use the same name from #1 if it was a boy either lol).
When we saw the little peepee i could tell how excited dh was to actually find out.
We kept is a secret from EVERYONE (sorry my belly group lol).. even our families dont know to this day we knew.
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