We decided not to find out this time (our first). Our reason came down to the fact that we had gone through months of fertility treatment and IVF/ICSI to fall pregnant. I felt like all the "spontaneity" of falling pregnant was taken away from us. Everything was so micro managed that even though it was such a wonderful moment when we found out we were pregnant, it wasn't the same as if we had done it naturally.

So, I wanted to regain some of that surprise factor. It was such a hard thing for me to do though! It was so tempting at our 20 week scan to find out... but my DH and I had made a committment that we would wait.

I think it is such a personal decision and people shouldn't judge either way.

Janie xxx