I've tried talking to him, I've tried to get to understand that it's not that I don't love him I just need some space. Plus I've got some serious body issues I need to sort out. I breast fed both my cherubs from one side due to breast cancer and now I have very very different breasts. One is a completely different shape and size and I feel like a bit of a freak so I hate him to see me naked. I'm sorry to unload all this but I haven't talked about it before so it's kinda all gushing out...
krisp - maybe you need to seek counselling for you in regard to the body issues - not sure if you've done it before, but i get the feeling that you unloading in here is the first time you've "fessed up" what you're feeling. it's not great to have body issues (i'm a big person, and i have some serious body issues - hate anyone seeing me in anything LESS than full attire - even DH most of the time) - i have had counselling about a lot of other stuff, and we dealt with this as well
as my DH is always saying to me - he's not attracted to a particular part of me - he's attracted to ME as a whole - personality is what started it (i swore at him first time i met him!) and my body is simply a part of me - he finds the whole package attractive - your DH is probably very much the same, and doesn't have any hang ups about your body - but because you do, it makes sense that it is impacting your relationship.
i really hope you can find a way to work around this and maybe come to some sort of "happy medium" where both of you are happy - it would be horrible for a relationship to breakdown over lack of intimacy if that is the only issue you have kwim?
i havent been intersted in sex since the birth of our daughter 2 and a half years ago! i feel bad but there's nothing i can do, i eat well i excersize and still dnt feel the need!
this isnt a good thing when ur trying to have another one but what do i do?
DF carry's on about it a fair bit but he still gets sex atleast once a week even if i dont feel like it. so ur not alone
i'll admit i've gone off sex. and DH gets freaked out when we do DTD and blip moves around, as he can see it/feel it.
I've talked to him about it and explained i dont really feel 'sexy' right now. and that its MY issue, i love him for who he is (he has some body issues too) and i always tell him that if he needs a "helping hand" i'll offer it. DH has also worked out that cuddles are better then sex for me, and after he's 'finished' we cuddle, just as we would post DTD, plus he's not freaked out when we do cuddle feeling blip move.
i think i stoped wanting sex around 26weeks and wanted it again around 32weeks...but getting 'bigger' made it harder for my fav DTD possie
I agree with the other posters and i'd suggest talking to your DH, see if you can reach some kind of middle ground with him, where he's happy and so are you, you both need to be happy for your kids to be happy. i think it may also help if he understands where YOUR comming from (EI the brest feeding) and i guess you need to understand he wants to be intermate with his mate, becuase after all DTD is about making babies...
I hope it works out...if you want to talk PM me...i may not understand but im happy to listen
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