DH won't let me dye my hair

[Tinsel]

Thanks again everyone and of course I want to hear everyone's opinion. I haven't done it yet and am having second thoughts. Mum2Furbabies don't think you are being a negative nelly and I think I will check the health food shop to see what is available.

Roryrory, I think DH would be disappointed if I did it and like you, the only reason I am doing it is for vanity. Maybe I can get a hat or scarf for the pics after birth LOL. I just hope in the meantime that more greys don't come out of the woodwork!

I'm already nervous about my little bundle so would feel dreadful if something went wrong.

[Mum2Furbabies]

Phew, didn't want to be taken the wrong way! Hehe.

And just to clarify. I don't think hair dye has any impact on the baby's journey in the womb or cause defects etc, nothing extreme like that. Just that in pregnancy you are creating a whole new person (duh - sorry to state the obvious) and so I think its important to make sure only the best building blocks go into the creation of a human. What is done during pregnancy will not only affect the baby up till its born - their cells and dna formed in the womb will be with them their whole life!! (well technically not the cells...most of them are continually replaced...but you know what I mean...)

[~Belinda~]

Hi

There is a thread called "Dieing my Hair" in the First Trimester General discussion too.

I am blond and had some foils done recently (at about 9 weeks). I wasn't going to get anything done but a trim but my hairdresser uses an organic product with no chemicals and my hair came up great! I felt so lovely at the end of it too.

I personally don't think there's any harm if you use an organic product and most hairdressers stock them these days.

Bindy xx

[Liz]

I am one who doesn't dye my hair in pregnancy. I'm the same as Mum2Furbabies.. I see development in the womb as such an important time.

The research I did when pg with Tallon basically said that there was no conclusive evidence that it goes through to the baby, but then it didn't say that it didn't either. I prefer to err on the side of caution. hehe.

I don't think anyone is expecting obvious deformities to come from the dye chemicals.. so those that say they have perfect babies after dying their hair - sorry, doesn't convince me LOL. Not saying they're not perfect! But i'm just saying we don't know if any harm is done on an unseen level iykwim. Just like - why do we avoid caffeine? Not because of massive obvious deformities.. but because there's a risk of altering the babies heartrate and respiratory system. However slight, it's an easy thing to stay away from. Caffeine, alcohol, hair dyes etc.. they're a small sacrifice for me And you can always pamper yourself once the baby is born

I feel like they will have a lifetime of exposure to this toxic environment as it is.. I like to try and keep the womb a nice clean place with as few chemicals as possible. I'm careful with what I put on skin fullstop when I'm pg.. soaps, creams, tanning creams etc. They all go out the door when I'm pg.

But yeah, that's just me Everyone does what they're comfortable with.

[mrsr]

I also dyed my hair several times during my last pregnancy, with permanent colours too. The reason why I had to dye so many times was because pregnancy hormones changed my hair, and it wouldnt hold onto the dye, and half of the colour would just wash out in water! (so I walked around with washed out orange hair a lot of the time, instead of dark red, LOL )

Hi, I'm an ex-hairdresser...here's something that isn't commonly known about hair colors.

Red fades a lot faster than any other color purely because the pigment molecules are actually much smaller than those of black, brown etc and the hair can't hold it very well. This also happens faster than normal if the hair is very porous to start with (ie has been prelightened) before the red has been applied.

As for not coloring your hair when you're pregnant, I colored mine throughout my first pregnancy and will continue to do so with #2. I believe that hair coloration products are fine, as long as you don't eat them.

That aside, I've cut caffiene and alcohol from my diet as well....I can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke either, so that's a good thing I guess, especially for an ex-smoker!!

[~Belinda~]

Liz, yes you are right, each to their own during their pregnancies. There is a lot of hype these days on "what not to do". I've spoken to many women in their 50's and none of "what not to do" was around years ago like what is around today. I just know that the hair dye doesn't even touch my scalp, only my hair. It's got no odour or anything. I think if dye was to touch my scalp, I "may" worry a little.

I don't drink caffeine at all although one of my friends is pregnant and drinks Coke and Coke Zero all the time, I just don't think I could do it and prefer to be careful with caffeine and that sort of stuff.

I'm not perfect and eat healthy and occasionally lash out on something a little unhealthy but I think you've put it well in saying it will have a life time of toxic exposure and if you can give your baby the best care you can whilst it's growing, surely that's so important!

Bindy xx

[Kaylene]

I remember years ago hearing that it is safer to use lighter colours during pregnancy and avoid the strong blacks and browns, something to do with a dye. Funny that always stuck. Hence I am caramel.

[Lukesmum]

I dye my hair but I don't dye my hair while I am pregnant. Yeah I look shocking (well I think so). It's only 10 months and I wouldn't risk it. Having said that. My hairdresser said I'm being super paranoid because she has had 3 bubs and worked right up to the end with all of them so she is exposed to it all day everyday. I have lots of friends who dye their hair when preg and all is fine.

[shell_belle]

I still dye my hair... In fact, I had it done yesterday. A full head of colour and foils. I dont really worry about it because the salon I go to use Aveda products which are made from plant extracts (so no bleach or peroxide). The price is ok too $110 for full colour. If you are worried but still want your hair done I would recomend looking for an Aveda salon! wow, that sounded like a commercial!

[mummytotwo]

I aksed my Ob last appt & he said it was fine to dye your hair while pg.

[Tinsel]

It is good to hear everyone's stories and opinions. I have decided I can wait to dye my hair until December when bub arrives and if nothing else, it will be very interesting to see how many grey hairs I actually have and what my normal hair colour is! LOL.

[Liz]

LOL Tinsel - when I finally went and had a colour put in .. I said to the hairdresser I was worried my regrowth would be grey - and she said.. "oh, you only have a few there".. what the??? LOL. She was supposed to tell me there were NO greys!

[Matryoshka]

Tinsel I gotta go against the grain here too - I firmly believe if not dyeing your hair is something that is really important to your DH, despite him having read all the info about how it is okay, then you should weigh up your desire to dye your hair against his fears and think about it in the context of your relationship with him. I am in the same situation as you - I am comfortable with it, DH is not, but because my desire to dye is due to vanity alone ( and his concerns are for the safety of our babe, I feel his needs/desires/fears deserve to be listened to, and so I won't dye my hair. There are going to be many things in parenting that one of you will be comfortable with and the other won't - personally I think that sometimes for the sake of the relationship you need to listen to the other person's concerns and sometimes concede, even though personally you think it isn't an issue. Plus to play devils advocate, imagine how you would feel if your DH did something which you were fearful would harm your baby, even though the risk was small or irrational - I imagine you would be really peeved that he didn't take your feelings into account? I think guys get so little input into the whole pg thing that whenever possible they should have a say and be involved, and maybe this is one small way you can make him feel like he is gestating this baby also?

Garbled I know but I should be working hope it all works out....

I agree, my dh didn't want me to dye my hair either (or foil it)so i didn't and even though i felt like i looked terrible as the blonde grew out and my natural brown came through, it was about respecting his feelings, as i know he would if i was really passionate about something. That being said, this was something i was willing to comprimise on as i knew how he felt about it and i knew i could survive 10 months of dodgey looking hair. But if this is really bothering you perhaps you could speak to him again about how much it means to you and go over the research together?

[Allys_mummy]

Hey
I died my hair through both this baby and my and my 2 year old .. my Dh hated the idea he has some weird thought that instead of coming out with both out blonde hair it will come out black lol :S .. Soo when i went to see my Ob she said there was no harm to baby by dying you hair .. oh and my 2 year old is blonde as blonde can be so it doesnt change there hair lol

[Harri]

My OB says it perfectly fine too! i had dyed my hair just before i got pg, with a base and foils..! The base was same color pretty much as my own hair... so i may not dye the base, but i will definitely fix the foils up!

[Roquen]

Foils are a good option if you are are a bit worried -as the chemicals don't touch the scalp when brushed on....

[kirbstar23]

Hi Darl....

Just to put some professional advise on this question that nearly every pregnant woman thinks about...

I am a hairdresser, currently 19 weeks pregnant and have been dying my hair and clients hair for quite some time now. The old wives tale is NOT to dye your hair, because one ingredient was abestos and not safe for pregnant women to put on their heads. I can't remember what years that was now, but it was like over 60yrs ago! Now days it is no longer used as a ingredient - for obvious reasons.

My rule of thumb is with clients is.... At the end of the day it's your decision! It's only sitting on your head, than being washed off. Your not eating it! And as most of you would be thinking i am in contact with it on a daily basis, smell it all day long. GP and obs have said nothing about it. If they felt it was unsafe i would have been advised to not be at work - especially after all the fertility treatment we had to fall pregnant.

[kirbstar23]

Hi Darl....

Just to put some professional advise on this question that nearly every pregnant woman thinks about...

I am a hairdresser, currently 19 weeks pregnant and have been dying my hair and clients hair for quite some time now. The old wives tale is NOT to dye your hair, because one ingredient was abestos and not safe for pregnant women to put on their heads. I can't remember what years that was now, but it was like over 60yrs ago! Now days it is no longer used as a ingredient - for obvious reasons.

My rule of thumb is with clients is.... At the end of the day it's your decision! It's only sitting on your head, than being washed off. Your not eating it! And as most of you would be thinking i am in contact with it on a daily basis, smell it all day long. GP and obs have said nothing about it. If they felt it was unsafe i would have been advised to not be at work - especially after all the fertility treatment we had to fall pregnant.

So ladies.... why have greys showing when you can carry off the full glowing look with beautiful hair!
And your right DH won't even notice - has he noticed before?

Good Luck with convincing DH

Love Kirby
xoxo