yes i agree buy and read up the duff. not nearly as graphic or disturbing as all of the other books that for me were too 'real'. i was terrified during my first pg. its meant to be the most natural thing etc. but personally i found it to be the most unnatural thing that ever happened to me. so many things to think about. i loved my belly then hated my deformed body. i loved making a baby but o my god, there was a human growing inside 'my' body that had to somehow get out of there. i was elated but terrified. quite simply i was very confused. now im doing it again. this time its wonderful.
i think some people just cope very well with their first pgs and most of us find it a bit trickier and why wouldnt we. its always hard doing something for the first time let alone something so important as creating another human being.
my 4 yr old human is banging loudly on something upstairs so i have to go but just remember not to compare yourself to others too much and try to have some systems for coping in place before the baby arrives. you may feel particularly vulnerable and the last thing youll need is people swooping in and pressuring you with their 'advice'.

beck