i was desperate to find out the sex of my first, but my partner was adamant we would leave it a surprise, and i was so so so so so glad i did.... i rated it so highly, now pregnant with my second i thought for sure i would again leave it as a surprise, as it is just awesome when you finally get the baby out finding out its a little girl or boy...... anyways second timne around i'm thinking i will actually find out, not necessarily tell people though....
i dunno why i want to know, i guess i want to be more organised and work out what clothes i can re-use etc, but thats not really a reason to find out, thats more a convenience.... hmmm maybe i'm just impatient....
for a first, i recommend leaving it as a surprise.... its awesome!
First time around I was desperate to know, I'm a shopaholic & I like to be organised. Also lived fairly remote so wanted to shop when I could or online. Anywho DH wouldn't let me & left it up til going in for the scan to say he didn't want to know....grrrrr. I know I couldn't keep it a secret, so let him have it his way LOL.
This time around DH gets no say....it's my turn!!! So i will be finding out & prob won't be able to keep it a secret.
Haha Mikayla, I just posted in our Buddies group that I was thinking about finding out.....but then not........ So Im no help to you in this thread, but I will follow it with interest!
It's really a personal choice like others have said. I wanted to know so badly that we had a 4D scan just to make sure!! But I'll tell you why I simply HAD TO find out.
I HATE surprises!! I've always liked to be emotionally/mentally prepared for things so it was a never a question for me. I'll find out everytime, not just this first time.
We wanted to stop calling the baby 'it'. It's so nice to be able to talk about him as 'my son' or say him/his. For us it makes it feel more real & like we're bonding with him.
I know that you can get neutral clothes but just didn't find that at my shops. There are only clothes specifically for boys or girls, or white. I wanted to be organised with his wardrobe etc while we were still on 2 incomes, I've got everything now. I also know that he'll get presents once he's born - but I wanted him to have things that I liked too & didn't want to rely on gifts IYKWIM.
Speaking of gifts, my family is very crafty. Our baby is having quilts, blankets, sheets & art made for him by some clever members. I understand how much more difficult it is doing this when you don't know the sex, as I had to do it for my sister.
It wasn't an issue with his nursery as it's the same as the rest of the house. But we've bought things like lamps etc that probably lean more towards being boyish.
Something to keep in mind is whether you'll tell people that you know the sex or not. If people asked we told & have had mixed responses. Some people carry on like it's the biggest mistake of our lives & we're ruining the experience. Which I think is ridiculous - we're still having a baby & it's still a very exciting time whether you know the sex or not. Others have been pleased for us & kept their opinions to themselves.
It's a big decision so good luck with what you decide!!
I have found out with both of mine. I like my surprises early
There is no reason why I chose to find out, simply that the technology is there to do it, I have the scans done anyway PLUS I personally hate referring to my little baby as "IT"
I think its nice to know but I totally understand why people choose to wait, I am just not that patient
I found out with all of mine.. I've had a few people say to me "oh, i guess if it was your first you would let it be a surprise"...nope, not for me
I think it's really down to personal preference.
I know a lot of people who want to find out, and a lot who don't. I really think it's down to you. There's no real benefit to finding out, save the colour scheme.
For myself, I like to know what colours we can buy and I also like to think of bub as 'him' or 'her'. My sister is PG with her first and she hasn't found out... at her baby shower she got all yellow, green & orange, not her favourite colours & now she is dying for some pink or blue! She doesn't care which either will do.
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