We found out with DS cos I wanted to know if he was a girl or not. Which he wasn't.
Then we didn't find out with DD (not for lack of trying) until I was 36 weeks pregnant.
We're not finding out with this one because if I have another c-section I want to be overwhelmed with the surprise of what I'm getting - another boy or another girl - and not be devastated by the fact that I'm not getting my VBA2C.
I didn't find out with DD(our 1st) but did with DS (2nd). If we were to ever have another I wouldn't find out again. I loved the surprise of not knowing when DD came out, and they said 'It's a GIRL!!'. With DS, it was a bit.....anticlimactic. Although I fell in love with him instantly, the surprise was just no there!
As you know Mikayla, I found out yesterday we're having a boy, I found out the first time too. I liked being able to refer to 'he' rather than it, and from the scan DH & I refered to DS by name (didn't tell anyone else the name though). Still need to think of a boys name this time, so at the moment its just he.
Yay, thankyou all of you for your replies to this thread, it really helped me think about it a bit more seriously than I have been. I think I'd like to find out, simply to be prepared and make it easier on some of our elderly family members in the family!
but if its your second or more child...I say it isnt too bad if you want to find out.
Im pregnant with my first, and although its hard to buy specific clothes when you dont know the sex, the waiting makes it so excited, and even my midwife said, it makes the birthing experience even more exilerating when you get a surprise of finding out what sex bub is.
I say keep it a surprise, itll feel like a lifetime of waiting, but its so worth it in the end..
From the moment I fell pregnant I've had a very strong feeling my little one is a boy and was happy to wait for the surprise but the suspense is killing me...is my gut feeling right ? that's what is making me change my mind, 20 week scan soon so I can't help myself I'm hoping to find out the sex...to see if my intution is spot on
This is really a decision that only you and your DH can make...
But my DH and I decided not to find out and now that we're literally days away from having bubs we are so glad that we don't know. I've actually requested in my birth plan that DH is the one to announce the sex of our baby, not the OB or midwife. I can't wait for moment that he tells me that we've had a boy or a girl, I think it will be such a special thing to share between just the two of us.
Initially DH wanted to find out and it was me who didn't. I know a lot of people who have found out and shared it with everyone. In a few cases they've even shared the name with the world months before their bubs comes. Personally, when their bubs has arrived I've found that I'm no where near as excited about the babies arrival, there's no what sex is it, what's their name etc, just a oh thats nice, if you know what I mean.
Personally I want my child's arrival in the world to be marked by excitement and happiness from everyone that we know. When I shared these thoughts with DH months ago he tended to agree. Now, we are both so happy that we don't know, and I think once you make the decision not to find out you stop 'dying' to know iykwim...
In terms of finding clothes, it really hasn't been that hard. And I do know what people mean about not wanting to call them 'it' - I also hate that. We just make a point of saying bubs instead of 'it'.
Whatever you and your DH decide will be right for you. Good luck with your pregnancy and journey into motherhood. x
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I found out the first time too. I liked being able to refer to 'he' rather than it, and from the scan DH & I refered to DS by name (didn't tell anyone else the name though). Still need to think of a boys name this time, so at the moment its just he.
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