Jem, sweety you know I am in EXACTLY the same place as you, and have just had my scan this morning. Deep down I would really like to experience a girl, so I know that I needed to find out to deal with whatever may be this time round.

It is a boy and I am a little dissappointed ( OK a Lot) But I also know I should have dealt with most of this by the time he is born. I did not want to resent him or be disappointed at his birth iykwim.