hoping for a certain gender?

[Arimeh]

I'm hoping for both genders. Both have their really strong points. So I'm a bit stuffed cos I'm definitely not having twins.. LOL

[Indadhanu]

I hoped for a boy, mostly because of my relationship with my mother, so when we found out at 18 weeks Jazz was a girl I cried and went through the worst disappointment I'd even felt... i had hoped for a boy, and the fear I felt about having a girl was almost overwhelming... I felt a lot of shame for the disappointment I felt, but you can't help what you feel and hope for. I did truly wonder how I would be able to mother a girl... I know with time I accepted it more, and I remember laying on the operating table during the c/s and thinking "OMG what am I going to do if its a boy?!?!?", so I had done a huge 180! Now i can't imagine it any other way... As long as you are honest with yourself anf let yourself grieve if thats something you need to do, or at least let yourself feel, you'll get through it. You can love your baby :hugs: xxxxx

[PinkPalace]

with #1 i hoped secretly for a girl. so much that i convinced myself i was having a boy to avoid dissapointment lol... DD was born!

#2 i hoped for a boy and we decided to find out at the 19 week scan so i didnt do the same thing again lol... DS was born!

[Erin_25]

I did hope to have a girl first time around, think I just loved the idea of dressing a DD up. Was not at all dissapointed when DS was born, though had convinced myslef it would be a boy as I figured I wouldn't get what I want LOL.

This time would love a girl, but don't care. Love DS to bits & how full on he is etc, already have the clothes etc. We will be finding out this time, so that will be good.

[Willow]

I think it's very normal. I've had a preference each time but never to the point of 'gender disappointment' if it didn't work out that way.

[first_time_mummy]

lol, funny story with me and dp.

I have had this motherly instinct that its a boy, but i think thats only because most of the clothes and accessories i have bought are blue and green, nd seeing them in bubs room everyday makes me just assume itll be a boy.

My dp, really wants a girl and has a 100 buck bet going with me that its a girl.

I wouldnt be suprised if it comes out a girl, and ill be stuck with all this blue stuff, lol, but either way, im totally overjoyed, whether it boy or girl.

I think ill just stick with a boy but, in hope that i win this much earned 100 bucks :P

[koru]

Leasha I've been going through a very similar thing to you: we haven't found out the sex of our baby but if I knew we have a boy I probably wouldn't be going through the process of exploring WHY I have such a problem with the mother-daughter relationship. I'm certain much of the emotional sh**** I've had to sort through really relates to parenting in general and not mothers & daughters so I'm glad we don't know.
I'm at the point now where I'd be quite happy with either sex - still a slight leaning towards a boy but I actually feel it IS a girl now - we tend to get given what we 'need' in life My DP has admitted he'd really love to have a daughter and I can so see him with one

[helle]

I'm hoping for both genders. Both have their really strong points. So I'm a bit stuffed cos I'm definitely not having twins.. LOL

haha, i was the same! Kind of alternating between how wonderful it would be to have blue or a pink.

[*TripleJ*]

i hoped for a boy last time and he was i didnt stop me saying i hope its not a girl in labour
im hoping for a girl next time and i'll probably be dissapointed if its a boy but i'll be happy coz i wont have to buy all new clothes lol got a lot of blue stuff xox

you'll love the baby either way dont worry