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thread: hoping for a certain gender?

  1. #19
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    Apr 2007
    sydney
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    we've just found out that #2 is a boy. I was disappointed as I wanted a little girl.

    Today Ifound out that "friends" of ours are expecting their first and it's a girl - just as the wife wanted. I've spent all day sobbing and even now am on the brink of tears

    I just hope that this feeling will pass and that when #2 is born I'll love him just the same as I do with my first... but I'm worried I won't and won't get over this feeling

  2. #20
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    May 2004
    Shepparton
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    You will love him, Kitty. Don't doubt that for an instant.

    (((hugs)))

  3. #21
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    Sep 2008
    Bunbury, Western Australia
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    I'm hoping for both genders. Both have their really strong points. So I'm a bit stuffed cos I'm definitely not having twins.. LOL
    haha, i was the same! Kind of alternating between how wonderful it would be to have blue or a pink.

  4. #22
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    Jan 2009
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    i hoped for a boy last time and he was i didnt stop me saying i hope its not a girl in labour
    im hoping for a girl next time and i'll probably be dissapointed if its a boy but i'll be happy coz i wont have to buy all new clothes lol got a lot of blue stuff xox

    you'll love the baby either way dont worry

  5. #23
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    Jun 2009
    Victoria
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    Hi Kitty, my DH and I were also VERY shocked to find out that we are expecting another Boy (i'm suppost to be keeping that a secret oops). DH has 2 sons from his 1st marriage so this will be boy #4 for him.

    We both just sort of expected that it would be a girl so when we were told otherwise we both laughed and said to the US tech "no really what is it?". I have girls names picked out and still think maybe the US tech got it wrong (yes i'm in a bit of denial).

    But i know 95% it will be a boy and it took a week or two but i'm ok with that now. Just give yourself some time for it to sink in. I still get a little bit sad when i look at all the little girls clothing at the shops, but i know that this little man will be loved and i wouldn't change a thing. I also made a mental list of all the positives of having another boy, so maybe that might help.

    Take care and give it some time

  6. #24
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    Feb 2007
    Ma hoos
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    kitty, big . There is a gender disappointment group that you can apply to join, if you want to talk about it more. I'm sure that you'll love your number 2 just as much as you love number 1, but it's easy to say, and talking to people who've been through what you're experiencing can really help.

  7. #25
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    Feb 2006
    melbourne
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    i though DD1 was a boy, mainly because i was worried due to my relationship with my mum! i was stoked she was a girl, when pregnant the secont time DH and i both secretly wanted girl, and she was!! but would have been happy with either

  8. #26
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    May 2009
    Adelaide
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    I have a 10yr old DS and this new bub has been wanted for years now so I'll be happy with either, but in saying that... I know deep down I'd love a girl. I wont at all be dissapointed with a boy but I think there will be an extra twinkle in my eye if I get a girl... dont all mums want a little girl!
    Funny thing is though heheh Im certain Im having another boy!

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