The most annoying thing on earth!

[MagicSeahorse]

I think I've found the most annoying thing on earth!
When you are announcing your pregnancy to friends/ family/associates, and there is always that one person who says..."I didn't need to be told, I knew you where pregnant ages ago, I could tell!"
They just sound so smug! I'v had at least one with each pregnancy.

Thanks for letting me have a bit of a vent.
Lisa

[MrsBump]

Yeah i get that too hun! Although i got "again" "so soon" etc... Enjoy your pregnancy!!

[sassy123]

it was funny i got it too from my mum i went to the doc when i was like 1 day late because i had been gettingbfp's since 11dpo. so i had only been preg for liek a week and she was liek yeah i knew like a month ago that u were i just didnt say anything, i was like wtf i am only just preg lol.

the people that have said this to u r they the people that always have to be right and have things their way thats wat i noticed.

[*LovemyKids*]

Yeah well my mil said when we told her that when she saw me the weekend before she thought i was pregnant i was only 4 weeks then had not even missed af then. Don't think so

Nikki

[Evie76]

I reckon you should just say, "How did you know? Were you there?"

[Evie76]

That'll put their smugness on the back foot quick smart.

[MagicSeahorse]

Everyone's a bloody know all arn't they!
And always so full of advice!
Why can't they just mind their own business!
lol

[tempus moriendi]

LOL at your post. I had that too, and the people who AFTER the birth, insisted that they "knew all along it was going to be a boy/girl"). Some people like to feel smart.

I just smile and let them have their fun.

[Karina]

Argh yeah someone at work told me "oh I knew you were pregnant ages ago. I heard you throwing up like every day in the toilets." I was just thinking - oh gee thanks for not bothering to ask me if I was ok! Same person then goes on to say "it was obvious. You're bum is getting big". um I wasnt carrying her in my bum! Anyway, the same person then kept telling me I was having a BOY. lol some people just reckon they know everything about everything.

[Clueless]

I've had exactly the same!! 'we all knew" etc, what also bothers me is people asking when you're going to have kids - what if we were trying and couldn't!? I never ask people now for exactly that reason. Also, I've been very forcefully told that I just HAVE to get rid of my cat now, and that I shouldn't be vegetarian anymore! How about I just give this baby to someone else, there seems to be alot wrong with me!

[Evie76]

Karina, that is hilarious. I am shocked that someone would make comment about your bum. What is with that? How totally rude!!

I often wonder the same thing Clueless. My husband I are have been married for eight years and before I was pg with Daniel people CONSTANTLY asked me when we were having kids? What if we weren't able? People just presume it's an easy thing for people to do. I often thought that before Daniel came along - " how do people know I CAN even have kids?" For someone who is trying REALLY hard to conceive that question could just be an arrow through the heart every single time.

Rude people. I just cannot believe it.

[Kazbah]

Clueless - i had the same thing about my cat ( we both had blood tests to see if either the cats or I were carriers!) but worse, all of DF's family assumed Pip was a "mistake"!

Yep, it was a mistake I got the implanon removed and that he came after much charting and temping!

[Evie76]

It's REALLY annoying. What a ridiculous world.

When the babies are born, are we supposed to put them in a sterile bubble? If so, I think I forgot that part.

People always presume your baby is a mistake and I was told that Daniel was a mistake - err....... OK then. I have been on the pill since I was 17 and went off it a year before Daniel was born in the full knowledge (and hope) of the possibilities. Hardly mistake material.

I used to tell people that my DH and I "didn't want kids" (when we knew we did - just wanted the financial backing for it). When I was pg people would say to me.... "but you didn't want kids". Work it out, der head, you stopped pestering me, didn't you? Once you tell people you don't want kids, they stop asking. You have to be a pretty convincing liar. Sad, eh?

[MagicSeahorse]

Dh and I have been together 12 years, we got the,"so when are you planning on having kids?" all the time.
To one lady I said " have been planned for many years!" That shut her up, and the rest of the town. I didn't tell her we'd been planning for years to have them now! But I deliberatly cultivated the belief that we couldn't have kids, just to get people of our backs. It WORKS! I don't like diseption, but everyone is twice as happy for us now. And more to the point, I am making sure all the town gossips are the last to know!

And didn't you know that as soon as you get pregnant, you are suddenly made of glass, or become a cripple! "oh you shouldn't be lifting that!" "don't sit like that, you're scrunching your tummy up!" "Just sit there, you shouldn't be doing anything"
Honestly! Last time I checked, my arms and legs still worked! And my head didn't fall off last time I did the laundry!

And Clueless, Having pets around you is a great thing! don't listen to them. Ask them if they would give up a child or family member just because they had a baby? After all thats what pets are!

[Karina]

Lestypuss, I was a bit shocked at the comment about my bum! Rather rude!

Lisylee, I agree. Pregnancy isnt a disease!

[tempus moriendi]

Re: "When are you going to have kids?"

Not only is it insensitive to the people who are infertile, it can also be stress provoking for couples where one wants to TTC and the other one wants to TTA. Frankly, with the divorce rate being what it is, we should be trying to support couples emotionally. Not tear them apart.

I even had the experience--before I was married--that I was in with a group of older women from work and the topic of family size came up. I mentioned that I wanted at least six. First, they told me I would change my mind after the first (I didn't). Second, they told me I "better hurry up" and start (I was only 24 and waiting for boyfriend to graduate college!). How rude.

I'll get off my soapbox now.

[MagicSeahorse]

Tempus.. Stay on that soapbox, I always love your posts.
People don't even think that you may not have kids for a reason. I'm sick of people treating me like it was some sort of weird feministic lifestyle choice! We have had problems. I'm 32 and have been wanting a family since I was 23! But like I said before, Tell them there are reasons and ususlly they will leave you alone.

[Evie76]

Look at moi, look at moi............ I've got one word to say to you LisyLee -

"D***heads!"

Sorry mods, had to be said. Makes me so angry.