Should i find out the gender?

[visitor1]

In that case id def not find out!!!! Thats would be a great surprise

Yep Ash thats exactly why i found out...Having PND already i didnt want to get to the end and find out its a girl and then go further down the drain. So i think it was in my best interest to find out, and will do for all future pregnancies....for my sanity LOL

[didispunk]

I agree with a few others..

What other suprises do you have in life that you just cannot peak at?

I never found out with DS and i woulndt wiht any other pregnancies..

You can always shop after the baby is born .. good reason to get out of the house.

leave it a suprise... its so worth it!!!!

[Arimeh]

I struggled with this question for AGES this time around... I found out with DS, because I knew that I couldn't wait till birth to know.
This time around, I finally made the decision to find out - we asked at the scan - nothing conclusive because bubs was being unco-operative.
So sometimes even when you want to know.. you can't !!!!! I did really want to know, not for clothes or anything like that, but because I would like this one to be a girl, but have made my peace with not knowing, and since we are having a third child anyway, doesn't really matter if this one is a boy.
Although - it would be helpful to know as I can only find girls names that I like and am struggling on finding boys names!!!!
Good luck in whatever you decide..

[PinkPalace]

Thanks Gudism

Yeah it is a hard one isnt it.

At this point in time i only want 2 children. And if it be a girl and a boy fine that would be great. If it was 2 girls, that would be beautiful too.

Mmm have about 2 weeks to think about it....

We didnt even ask what gender dd was when she was born... lol i was just so excited she looked like me (dh and i are complete opposites in looks due to ethnicity's) lol so it was a little competition who's genes would win out!

[MantaRay]

LOL PP, I was much the same with DS1. I was just such in awe that I had a baby in my arms, it didn't even occur to me to wonder what gender it was!!

[Mumma2three]

DD1 was a suprise for us, although I knew it was a girl in my heart. With DD2 we found out although they kept saying they weren't 100% sure and I think I was more suprised when she was born than with number 1!! I wanted 2 girls so I think with number 2 I didnt' want to get too excited incase.
Saying all that I loved finding out and it was still a suprise the day they told us!! Also having DD1 7.5 years older it was lovely for her. She seemed to want a brother so it was important to prepare her (she LOVES her sister so much , and now only wants another sister if we get pregnant)!
We will find out again, I thought it was great. I liked both ways, but I just don't think I could wait after finding out last time!
Definitely a personal choice, both ways are worth it! xoxo

[ShootingStar]

I happily found out with both DS and DD to be. And to be honest i dont think it takes away any of the surprise whatsoever. We got the surprise of finding out at 19 weeks and when bubs is born its a different surprise all together. So i dont agree with those who say if you find out early your dont get as big of an excitement when they are born.. because damn right you do!

I say its a personal choice. If your DH really doesnt want to know i wouldnt pressure him to know, thats his choice. But you can always ask the scan people to just tell you or write it on a piece of paper what they think it is. Remembering its not 100%.

[Beach Mama]

I agree with Kellxx... we found out with Izzy although it was only 70% sure and we were prepared for a boy too! and we just found out yesteday with this bubby and oh my we are soooo excited!!!!! I definately don't think that it takes anything away from the excitement of having a new baby!!! It's not as if you go "oh it's a boy - cool- let's go get a coffee The wonder and amazement of bringing that baby safely to the world is no less fabulous because you know the sex!!

One of my Belly buddies knew but her DH didn't - they got it written in an envelope and took it home to open privately! She did, and he didn't and she hid any pink purchases she made. By the end I think he knew too but didn't care by then!!
Good luck deciding!

[mountain mummy]

Being my 4th, I wanted to know this time around, but I wasn't too fussed if they couldn't tell for sure ... for me the tech said "I think that's boy bits there" but she wasn't really sure and it wasn't really a good angle - as far as I could see, it could very well have been the cord hanging low (my placenta also attached low so ...)

So for us, it kinda still is a surprise - and my others keep saying it's a girl anyway (and my eldest hasn't been wrong yet!) I also woke up with a start a couple of weeks ago with the strongest feeling it was a girl - I was almost screaming out the girls name we had picked out .... so unless they can say for sure (if that's what you want) there is still the chance you can walk out of there not knowing ....

[Jewel]

With DS, I wasn't sure if I wanted to know or not, but my DP wanted to so he decided that one and I think it made him feel more apart of things, if that makes sense.
We only told our families the gender that time around, but half them couldn't keep it a secret, so that was a little disappointing for me. :P

This time around, both DP and I wanted to find out. We got an answer sort of, but we're still going with both sex names and only getting unisex stuff. We both don't think she gave it enough time when looking or even reassured us. Like come on how can you tell from a profile view. Lol

Good luck with your scan and with whichever way you decide about the gender.
I hope you're having a H&H pg!

xx

[csab]

I didnt find out what I was having for any of my first 4 children. I wanted to wait to leave it as a surprise, as did my DH. My first 2 were boys and it was so nice to have that surpirse at the end. After 2 m/c's to get told I had a little girl, was so beautiful, then with my 4th to find out that my older little girl had a sister was just as beautiful. It was so worth the wait. With my current pg, after having 2 m/c's before this pg and then having other issues facing me, and as having to have a CVS I thought that I may as well find out, JIC something happened. I didnt want to go thru another loss not knowing what I had. So now I know that I have another little girl and couldnt be happier since finding out. Even if my litle one was a boy, I would have been just as happy. Yet I would have been just as happy to wait and see at the very end, which I would have done if I didnt face problems this time round. Sometimes I wonder now if I have made the right decision this time. Even tho the not knowing just seemed to be a long tedious wait with the others the surprise makes it seem that much more special IYKWIM. Hugs

[fionas]

I agree with the others - if you'd set your heart on a girl or a boy then it could be important.

For me, not knowing was great. Mind you, both DP and I thought we were having a boy - to such an extent that we'd only chosen boy's names.

I kept telling people, "we think it's a boy so if it is then clever us for being right and if it's a girl, clever her for fooling us."

And of course, it was only the people with the most bizarre theories that told me I was having a girl so I kind of ignored them.

Yes, we had a girl! My first reaction was, "what???????" But we could not have been happier and I spent the first two weeks in wonder at how my cheeky little monkey had fooled us so convincingly.