Should i find out the gender?

[PinkPalace]

Thanks Gudism

Yeah it is a hard one isnt it.

At this point in time i only want 2 children. And if it be a girl and a boy fine that would be great. If it was 2 girls, that would be beautiful too.

Mmm have about 2 weeks to think about it....

We didnt even ask what gender dd was when she was born... lol i was just so excited she looked like me (dh and i are complete opposites in looks due to ethnicity's) lol so it was a little competition who's genes would win out!

[MantaRay]

LOL PP, I was much the same with DS1. I was just such in awe that I had a baby in my arms, it didn't even occur to me to wonder what gender it was!!

[Mumma2three]

DD1 was a suprise for us, although I knew it was a girl in my heart. With DD2 we found out although they kept saying they weren't 100% sure and I think I was more suprised when she was born than with number 1!! I wanted 2 girls so I think with number 2 I didnt' want to get too excited incase.
Saying all that I loved finding out and it was still a suprise the day they told us!! Also having DD1 7.5 years older it was lovely for her. She seemed to want a brother so it was important to prepare her (she LOVES her sister so much , and now only wants another sister if we get pregnant)!
We will find out again, I thought it was great. I liked both ways, but I just don't think I could wait after finding out last time!
Definitely a personal choice, both ways are worth it! xoxo

[ShootingStar]

I happily found out with both DS and DD to be. And to be honest i dont think it takes away any of the surprise whatsoever. We got the surprise of finding out at 19 weeks and when bubs is born its a different surprise all together. So i dont agree with those who say if you find out early your dont get as big of an excitement when they are born.. because damn right you do!

I say its a personal choice. If your DH really doesnt want to know i wouldnt pressure him to know, thats his choice. But you can always ask the scan people to just tell you or write it on a piece of paper what they think it is. Remembering its not 100%.

[Beach Mama]

I agree with Kellxx... we found out with Izzy although it was only 70% sure and we were prepared for a boy too! and we just found out yesteday with this bubby and oh my we are soooo excited!!!!! I definately don't think that it takes anything away from the excitement of having a new baby!!! It's not as if you go "oh it's a boy - cool- let's go get a coffee The wonder and amazement of bringing that baby safely to the world is no less fabulous because you know the sex!!

One of my Belly buddies knew but her DH didn't - they got it written in an envelope and took it home to open privately! She did, and he didn't and she hid any pink purchases she made. By the end I think he knew too but didn't care by then!!
Good luck deciding!

[PinkPalace]

Thanks Manta, Webbmeg, kell and Tanstar,

Its nice to hear some positive stories about finding out.

Well i asked DD again last night.... Didnt really get an answer. When i asked if he wanted to find out he said 'no' and when i said why? he didnt know why

So i put my case forward and said we would only have to think of 1 name (as we have NOOOOO ideas at all... not even a first name for either a boy or girl)... well i like Alexi for a girl but he says no because dd#1's name also starts with a A.

then he said i could find out and not tell him... but i want to decorate ! lol.... unless i keep the nursery room door shut for 5 months? that could work what a surprise then!

mmmmm

i do agree thought it would have to be both know or no one knows. oh i dont know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RAHHHH

[Arimeh]

I've so been where you are honey!!!! My DH was of the opinion that he didn't mind finding out, but would go with whatever decision I made. So you know what I did? I asked all my friends, family, workmates etc what they would do, and made up a little poll to see which side won out, because seriously, it was doing my head in. And the end result - not to find out. By one vote. So that settled it. But then, 6 weeks later, I spotted a piece of paper at work where I had rang up about a 3D scan and realised that I could get it done that week if I wanted to. Out of all the crap sitting on my desk at work, thats the one piece of paper that jumped out at me. So we got the 3D scan done, and STILL didn't find out!!!! pmsl... some things just aren't meant to be..

[PinkPalace]

Gudism
That is what i am thinking maybe go into the scan with no hard decision and if bub's bits present themselves obviously then we were to find out... if not then... surprises in store?

[mountain mummy]

Being my 4th, I wanted to know this time around, but I wasn't too fussed if they couldn't tell for sure ... for me the tech said "I think that's boy bits there" but she wasn't really sure and it wasn't really a good angle - as far as I could see, it could very well have been the cord hanging low (my placenta also attached low so ...)

So for us, it kinda still is a surprise - and my others keep saying it's a girl anyway (and my eldest hasn't been wrong yet!) I also woke up with a start a couple of weeks ago with the strongest feeling it was a girl - I was almost screaming out the girls name we had picked out .... so unless they can say for sure (if that's what you want) there is still the chance you can walk out of there not knowing ....

[Jewel]

With DS, I wasn't sure if I wanted to know or not, but my DP wanted to so he decided that one and I think it made him feel more apart of things, if that makes sense.
We only told our families the gender that time around, but half them couldn't keep it a secret, so that was a little disappointing for me. :P

This time around, both DP and I wanted to find out. We got an answer sort of, but we're still going with both sex names and only getting unisex stuff. We both don't think she gave it enough time when looking or even reassured us. Like come on how can you tell from a profile view. Lol

Good luck with your scan and with whichever way you decide about the gender.
I hope you're having a H&H pg!

xx

[csab]

I didnt find out what I was having for any of my first 4 children. I wanted to wait to leave it as a surprise, as did my DH. My first 2 were boys and it was so nice to have that surpirse at the end. After 2 m/c's to get told I had a little girl, was so beautiful, then with my 4th to find out that my older little girl had a sister was just as beautiful. It was so worth the wait. With my current pg, after having 2 m/c's before this pg and then having other issues facing me, and as having to have a CVS I thought that I may as well find out, JIC something happened. I didnt want to go thru another loss not knowing what I had. So now I know that I have another little girl and couldnt be happier since finding out. Even if my litle one was a boy, I would have been just as happy. Yet I would have been just as happy to wait and see at the very end, which I would have done if I didnt face problems this time round. Sometimes I wonder now if I have made the right decision this time. Even tho the not knowing just seemed to be a long tedious wait with the others the surprise makes it seem that much more special IYKWIM. Hugs

[fionas]

I agree with the others - if you'd set your heart on a girl or a boy then it could be important.

For me, not knowing was great. Mind you, both DP and I thought we were having a boy - to such an extent that we'd only chosen boy's names.

I kept telling people, "we think it's a boy so if it is then clever us for being right and if it's a girl, clever her for fooling us."

And of course, it was only the people with the most bizarre theories that told me I was having a girl so I kind of ignored them.

Yes, we had a girl! My first reaction was, "what???????" But we could not have been happier and I spent the first two weeks in wonder at how my cheeky little monkey had fooled us so convincingly.

[RenHinde]

i have 2 boys already, and they are wonderful... i think i will be scared if im having a girl, i find out on Thursday this week... i cant wait! i have known the sex with both my boys! i just couldnt wait, im so impatient!

[PinkPalace]

Well it has been decided
We are NOT finding out.

so surprise #2 it will be.

[Arimeh]

Woohoo!!! Good on ya!!!!
We can be on the "surprise" team together....