I didnt find out what I was having for any of my first 4 children. I wanted to wait to leave it as a surprise, as did my DH. My first 2 were boys and it was so nice to have that surpirse at the end. After 2 m/c's to get told I had a little girl, was so beautiful, then with my 4th to find out that my older little girl had a sister was just as beautiful. It was so worth the wait. With my current pg, after having 2 m/c's before this pg and then having other issues facing me, and as having to have a CVS I thought that I may as well find out, JIC something happened. I didnt want to go thru another loss not knowing what I had. So now I know that I have another little girl and couldnt be happier since finding out. Even if my litle one was a boy, I would have been just as happy. Yet I would have been just as happy to wait and see at the very end, which I would have done if I didnt face problems this time round. Sometimes I wonder now if I have made the right decision this time. Even tho the not knowing just seemed to be a long tedious wait with the others the surprise makes it seem that much more special IYKWIM. Hugs