Glad to hear the update from the specialist. Like a couple of the other girls have said, some people get those odds at the 12 wk scan and chose not to have the amnio as well. There is more chance she is just fine than anything is wrong. Plus, like your specialist said, it would have been more likely to be picked up at that stage than this.
Emma, so much can go wrong during pg and childbirth that I'm sure some forewarning that there may be a problem will only help to prepare you to accept your little girl however she is. None of us know what will happen in the future to any of our children - some are born fine and still have problems later from other things.
I have a lovely friend who tells us that the Japanese deliberately put a small blemish on all pottery they make because nothing is meant to be perfect. We're all like Japanese pottery in some way!
I called the ob to tell him that we didnt have the test and to ask a couple of quick questions.
He told me that he knew already and that he has spoken to the specialist in melb to get an accurate "number" on our chances for Abby to have Downs.
Taking everything into account the possibility is LESS THAN 0.5%
How can i not be happy with that!
I know it dosent mean that its not going to happen, so dont you all stress out thinking im going to forget all about it and get a shock if it turns out she does have this little "problem" but...
Ive started to look into some info too and thats helping me understand what it will be like...
less than 0.5%! come on thats not too bad hey?
We already know that we love her very much either way so what harm can a little hope have? At very least its going to help me get thru the next 17 or so weeks.
Anyway, Im off to have lunch with Tim and my sister... and do some shopping for our little star.
Thanks everyone, im so thankful to you all for helping me get thru this. When ive been sad i just read all the posts and it really honestly does help.
xxxx emma, tim and abby!!
Emma - i have been reading through - you have a lot of support here on Beelybelly - everyone is behind you 100% - you are a very lovel woman and your daughter will grow to be a beautiful and precious and much loved wee girl no matter what the outcome- I am so happy that you have come to terms with it and the risk level has been reduced... good luck and look forward to watching your progress....
What great news. Hope you are out buying plenty of little pink outfits for Abby.
Spoil yourself and DH too, you both deserve it. You've been incrediably strong.
Take Care.
Good news Emz, It sounds like this has given you that extra boost to keep going, and reaffirms your choices. Less than 0.05% sounds great. I will keep you and Tim and of course little Abby in my prayers.
I hope you had a great lunch and spoilt all three of you on your shopping trip.
Hi Emz! I don't even know you, but I am so proud of you!
If you want to e-mail me, I'm here any time. My first degree is in Special Ed, and have worked in the disability sector for 8 years, mostly with children and adults with disabilities (many with Downs) and their families, (outside the school system). I am currently studying Law to become a specialist in antidiscrimination and human rights law (just to give you an idea of how passionate I am about this!) I have worked with government and various advocacy organisations to try to change attitudes in the community toward disability, and make sure people with a disability are given every opportunity to become valued, contributing citizens. I can put you in touch with some people in your state if you're keen to talk with someone personally.
Despite my work, I am really just an everyday person with a passion for human rights, and helping people with a disability to acheive their potential.
The odds are definately in your favour though, and you may not even need any info at all!
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