Hey Shell, don't let it worry you too much. I guess with this sort of thing, everyone (esp females)have pretty strong feelings about how things should be done. Just do whatever feels right for you and DJ at the time, you aren't having a baby to please everyone else, just smile and do it your way. You have every right to and I know you well enough to know you will do everything you can to provide a happy and healthy life for DJ. xo