The only thing I'm going to add to the excellent comments above is that I read on here somewhere (can't recall who posted it ) that someone makes a preggy top that reads "I don't want to hear your horror story!"

I have joked to DH about getting one and now we are telling other people about them too - trying to get out there that I do not want to hear if you're going to tell me about how traumatic pregnancy, labour and birth can be.

Everyone has a different experience and while it is great to share that, sometimes it is not great to share with someone who is about to go through it.

With my swelling, people feel obliged to tell me how they (or some random person they know) had swelling and how it lead to pre-eclampsia, being induced or delivering prematurely, babies ending up in NICU, all bad stuff. Not really what I want to hear at this point!!!!

Stay strong chicka - you can do it! We were made to do it!