Can i request a growth scan **warning post may upset**

[Mummatotwo!]

Thats the thing, i have good faith that the health of bub is fine i am not too stressed about that.

you really just raised a very good point there! why am i focused on the weight? shouldnt the overall outcome be the most important. I think that i am focusing on that because thats a pretty direct sign that i have done this to my little child....

[Sammiejane]

Yep, i understand - but you cant take it back or change it can you, so you will just beat yourself up and do more harm than good iykwim.

If you feel guilty, try to quit at a time that is right for you, not because you have too. Thats why you have probably failed. use your children as encourangement not the reason you have to quit as it probably isnt the right one for you.

Take care of yourself and try not to worry

[Mum0809]

I would go ask for a scan if you are worried.

[Ozziehoffy]

try not to stress - I know it's hard not too. I smoked and tried like you to give up. The more I tried, the worse and harder it was! I felt sooo guilty and would cry and beat myself up so bad. My first was 7lb and second was 5lb 12. Both of them were healthy which was the main thing. I have since given up though. I hope that it all goes well for you.

[Banx]

Sweetie please don't think the worst of yourself.. I have no doubt in my mind that you are a loving/caring mother to your children (especially the one still growing inside you)

I have been paranoid about the growth of my bubby too... This is my first child/pregnancy (thats lasted more than 10 weeks anyway) and I have had high blood pressure since 14 weeks, 3 bleeds at different stages and now have Pre-Eclampsia... So I by no means have had an "easy" pregnancy.

I have requested many ultrasounds to check his growth, Have never been refused and even if they did refuse I would have pushed until I got the referal.

The amount of ease I got from seeing his size and for them telling me that he was "on target" or now... "Bigger than average" is overwhelming!

Please do PUSH for an ultrasound! It will make you feel a little better at least. But please do remember that their measurements/ weight estimates are just that... ESTIMATES

Keep your chin up.. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy

xox

[Kitt3n]

I cant understand why on earth they would refuse you anyway hun.

Like others have said, dotn focus on the weight, 10 fingers and 10 toes. You will never know if not smoking would have made an ounce of difference so there is no point bashing youself up over it

[1stimer]

i odnt really think that when you smoke it does alot of harm to your baby, im a smoker and have been for around 7 years now, i tried to quit and i mean did everything, but i just couldnt, i was worried that my baby may be smaller or come early, but i have done every test they could give me and he is perfectly healthy and even growing bigger and bigger every day, and i have also been warned that he will be a big boy as he is measuring 6cm bigger than he is supposed.

Dont worry to much about it, i think you and your bub should be fine

[Trillian]

There is every chance that this baby could have been smaller anyway and nothing to do with the smoking hun. It is a very real concern that you have and I think that you should go and get the scan just for peace of mind if nothing else. Be aware though that the size guesstimate can be way off, but I would ask for them to check the placental function as this is what is nurturing your baby.

And not all smokers have small babies - my mum smoked with all of us and her smallest baby was her second bub at 8lb and he was 4wks early - the rest of us ranged from 8lb 13 up to 10lb 14 (there were 5 of us), small consolation I know when you are struggling with giving up. Good luck, I'm sure your baby will be fine.

[Alyssas_Mum]

I'm not a smoker and never have been so i dont understand what your going through but atleast you care enough to try and quit and you've cut down, thats still better than nothing and more than alot of preg mums do.
I'm proud of you for cutting down and trying, don't beat yourself up over it, lots of ppl (my whole family included) smoke and they still have healthy babies. All 3 of my sisters smoked throughout both of their pregnancies and they all had healthy babies, and unlike you they didnt make the effort to cut down or quit.
Push for your u/s, what matters most is what you want, its your pregnancy, your body and your baby.
Good luck sweetie and all the best

[~Flossie~]

hey ,

hope that you are doing ok and that you have a scan booked..

Would love to catch up with you soon, my little man is sick at the moment so hopefully at the end of the week or something?? ill send you a PM soon

xo Anna

[Wombles]

Hey Mumma

I know the stress you are going through, as i haven't been able to beat the cigarettes either It's a terrible habit to break unfortunatelly.

I had an ultra sound done last monday and the lady estimated my baby to be approximately 2.9kilo's already (i am not sure what that is in pounds etc) but i know my son was 3kg at birth and he was born 3 week's early by c-section. This baby will also be by c-section. I have 3 week's to go today (tuesday 5th august) as they are giving me the c-section at 38 week's.

I can understand your concern, and you do what you feel is right for you and to ease your mind, i am sure they wouldn't mind giving you another scan, it's your choice.

[curl]

I cried a little reading Hoobley's post... I think she's spot on. You're a great mum, don't doubt yourself.

I have two close friends who smoke (pack per day) and they both give birth to healthy sized babies. One has two sons and both were 9 pounds. The other has had 2 just under 6 pounds and with number 3 was expecting the same size but no, he was born 9lb 3oz. I will add that friend number 2 is 4ft 9in high so she was used to having small babies and it was expected but surprise... huge baby number 3.

Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy mummatotwo.

[Niamh75]

I know you have been worried about your bump size hun then get the scan put your mind at ease I think the fact you are trying to cut back and we know you care I dont smoke so i can only guess how hard it is to try and quit

Ild say your baby will be fine and a nice weight I was smallest on my 3rd baby and he was 8 pounds 6 as you know I have big babies as well so know what you mean on 5 to 6 pounds I think I would be so nervous with a baby that small

try not to stress so much my mam smoked with all her pregnancys and Im ok Im small in height but i put that down to genes lol

hope your feeling better that baby of yours could be doing a nice job of hiding inside you

[paradise lost]

I'm just back to give you more squeezes (love hugging bumpish ladies ) and remind you that you, your body, is the BEST place for your baby to be. Tell depression from me to SHUT IT! Your body is nurturing your baby, which you love. Your baby is only about 7 inches from your strongly beating heart and can hear and feel that thumping beat of your love every second or so. Take deep breaths. Have faith in you, your baby does. Not for no reason hun!

Loves

Bx

[Chocaholic]

Darn it Hoobley, please stop making me cry. You say such the nicest things in a very poetic way!!

Mumma, you are a wonderful mummy and this child knows it. It knows you have done the absolute best you can to nurture him or her and bring them safely into this world. Nothing you can do will change that.

As long as the heartbeat is strong and you are getting some nice movements then please focus on that rather than the size. You will be meeting you bundle of joy in a few weeks and focus on the awe and love you will feel when you finally get to see and touch such a precious bundle.

Good luck!!!!

[Mummatotwo!]

I'm just back to give you more squeezes (love hugging bumpish ladies ) and remind you that you, your body, is the BEST place for your baby to be. Tell depression from me to SHUT IT! Your body is nurturing your baby, which you love. Your baby is only about 7 inches from your strongly beating heart and can hear and feel that thumping beat of your love every second or so. Take deep breaths. Have faith in you, your baby does. Not for no reason hun!

Loves

Bx

Darn it Hoobley, please stop making me cry. You say such the nicest things in a very poetic way!!

Mumma, you are a wonderful mummy and this child knows it. It knows you have done the absolute best you can to nurture him or her and bring them safely into this world. Nothing you can do will change that.

As long as the heartbeat is strong and you are getting some nice movements then please focus on that rather than the size. You will be meeting you bundle of joy in a few weeks and focus on the awe and love you will feel when you finally get to see and touch such a precious bundle.

Good luck!!!!

i justlove that i have found this site

[Mumma2three]

I just wanted to say that we are all our own worst critic. Be forgiving of yourself and gentle on yourself. Just remembering you're human and you're doing your best which is most important. As a mother it's so damn easy to feel guilty about EVERYTHING, but it's important to give ourselves some credit.
Just seeing how everyone has reacted, shows that we are caring to others, and I think sometimes we just need to be that caring to ourselves. xoxoxo