try not to stress - I know it's hard not too. I smoked and tried like you to give up. The more I tried, the worse and harder it was! I felt sooo guilty and would cry and beat myself up so bad. My first was 7lb and second was 5lb 12. Both of them were healthy which was the main thing. I have since given up though. I hope that it all goes well for you.
Sweetie please don't think the worst of yourself.. I have no doubt in my mind that you are a loving/caring mother to your children (especially the one still growing inside you)
I have been paranoid about the growth of my bubby too... This is my first child/pregnancy (thats lasted more than 10 weeks anyway) and I have had high blood pressure since 14 weeks, 3 bleeds at different stages and now have Pre-Eclampsia... So I by no means have had an "easy" pregnancy.
I have requested many ultrasounds to check his growth, Have never been refused and even if they did refuse I would have pushed until I got the referal.
The amount of ease I got from seeing his size and for them telling me that he was "on target" or now... "Bigger than average" is overwhelming!
Please do PUSH for an ultrasound! It will make you feel a little better at least. But please do remember that their measurements/ weight estimates are just that... ESTIMATES
Keep your chin up.. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy
I cant understand why on earth they would refuse you anyway hun.
Like others have said, dotn focus on the weight, 10 fingers and 10 toes. You will never know if not smoking would have made an ounce of difference so there is no point bashing youself up over it
i odnt really think that when you smoke it does alot of harm to your baby, im a smoker and have been for around 7 years now, i tried to quit and i mean did everything, but i just couldnt, i was worried that my baby may be smaller or come early, but i have done every test they could give me and he is perfectly healthy and even growing bigger and bigger every day, and i have also been warned that he will be a big boy as he is measuring 6cm bigger than he is supposed.
Dont worry to much about it, i think you and your bub should be fine
There is every chance that this baby could have been smaller anyway and nothing to do with the smoking hun. It is a very real concern that you have and I think that you should go and get the scan just for peace of mind if nothing else. Be aware though that the size guesstimate can be way off, but I would ask for them to check the placental function as this is what is nurturing your baby.
And not all smokers have small babies - my mum smoked with all of us and her smallest baby was her second bub at 8lb and he was 4wks early - the rest of us ranged from 8lb 13 up to 10lb 14 (there were 5 of us), small consolation I know when you are struggling with giving up. Good luck, I'm sure your baby will be fine.
I'm not a smoker and never have been so i dont understand what your going through but atleast you care enough to try and quit and you've cut down, thats still better than nothing and more than alot of preg mums do.
I'm proud of you for cutting down and trying, don't beat yourself up over it, lots of ppl (my whole family included) smoke and they still have healthy babies. All 3 of my sisters smoked throughout both of their pregnancies and they all had healthy babies, and unlike you they didnt make the effort to cut down or quit.
Push for your u/s, what matters most is what you want, its your pregnancy, your body and your baby.
Good luck sweetie and all the best
Dont stress sweetie, Like others have said my doctor told me that the stressing about smoking will do more harm. I managed to kick the habit, but it was one of the hardest things I've ever done
Don't be to hard on your self, your doing the best you can xxx
Anna, would love to catch up. Was extremely nervous about posting this incase some "real life" peopl thought terribley of me. I just want a beautiful healthy baby. I am so freaked out that he will be taken away because he cant breath. Or taken because he is too small.... I wake up every morning in tears. I have pre existing PND which doesnt help either, and off all my meds for that.
I am feeling a bit better, and trying to concentrate on having the last few weeks of this pregnancy as happy times. As more then likely its my last. Its only my last because i couldnt handle this emotion again..
Again thank you all for your gentle kind words. I am a good person really
I live in a small country town in NSW called Hay. Very remote and very quiet lol
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Hey Mumma
I know the stress you are going through, as i haven't been able to beat the cigarettes either It's a terrible habit to break unfortunatelly.
I had an ultra sound done last monday and the lady estimated my baby to be approximately 2.9kilo's already (i am not sure what that is in pounds etc) but i know my son was 3kg at birth and he was born 3 week's early by c-section. This baby will also be by c-section. I have 3 week's to go today (tuesday 5th august) as they are giving me the c-section at 38 week's.
I can understand your concern, and you do what you feel is right for you and to ease your mind, i am sure they wouldn't mind giving you another scan, it's your choice.
I cried a little reading Hoobley's post... I think she's spot on. You're a great mum, don't doubt yourself.
I have two close friends who smoke (pack per day) and they both give birth to healthy sized babies. One has two sons and both were 9 pounds. The other has had 2 just under 6 pounds and with number 3 was expecting the same size but no, he was born 9lb 3oz. I will add that friend number 2 is 4ft 9in high so she was used to having small babies and it was expected but surprise... huge baby number 3.
Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy mummatotwo.
well i ended up asking my GP for one at my 35 week appointment and he said no.
I am all stressed out again about it today, and having trouble staying up beat.
I have a midwife appointment on monday, so i will talk to them then.
You'll be fine. Please don't stress. You are nearly at 36 weeks, so even if bub was born now, s/he should be fine! There is only 4 or so weeks to go & your beautiful baby will be here.
Try to take your mind off it.
Is your bag packed?
Have you got everything in there you need?
Have you got everything for bub's you need?
Spend some extra time with your DS before bubs gets here. Take him to the park or something.
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try not to stress - I know it's hard not too. I smoked and tried like you to give up. The more I tried, the worse and harder it was! I felt sooo guilty and would cry and beat myself up so bad. My first was 7lb and second was 5lb 12. Both of them were healthy which was the main thing. I have since given up though. I hope that it all goes well for you.
It's a terrible habit to break unfortunatelly.
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