I am so impatient too and I looked at it as we have had 2 surprises.
The day we found out at the scan was honestly the most exciting day of my life. Not a day goes by when i don't think about my little boy and wonder what he will be like and how is life will be.
I now feel that when I give birth we will have another great surprise by meeting our little man and the excitement has been building since 20 weeks. It certainly won't ruin the surprise of seeing him for the first time already knowing what he is. I think the gift of meeting him will be the most amazing moment for us.
So don't necessarily base your decision on ruining the surprise 'on the day'. Giving birth will be surpise enough!!
You have to just think if you find out now will it make a huge difference in the next 12 weeks or can you hold out so that you don't blurt it out to everyone!
We have managed not to tell anyone that we are having a boy, although I have nearly slipped up a few times
We were very undecided about finding out the gender... so we said if we see it we do if we don't then we don't, so the sonographer didn't go looking. After though I would at times wonder if we should've or not... but we weren't going to have a scan done just to find out so we had to wait then. Although 2 months before we had bubs some people we know found out that their "pink" bundle was actually going to be a "blue" bundle and they had bought everything pink and had like 2 weeks to change it all!! So it's not always correct anyway. I do have to say that not knowing until the birth turned out to be wonderful for me and I think for me gave me more connection with him as well if that makes any sense at all. Best of luck!! I'd say though if it were me, leave it until the birth now... what if your DP changes his mind again and wishes that you didn't find out if you do go and find out.
When I had #1 I chose not to find out the sex. With #2 we chose to find out the sex and now with #3 we have chosen to find out again.
Its is a really personal choice but for me I actually feel great comfort in knowing what sex they are...its abit exciting too when you dont know what they will be....
The thing is whether you know or not doesnt really matter...the excitment and mystery in getting to know your baby is always there.
For us that means....a third daughter although this time I didnt really need the ultrasound I had a really strong sense that it was a girl and we couldnt have been happier.
thanks for all your advice guys...i think i'm gonna try to stick it out. i really want that moment of finding out after giving birth, and i just feel like it gives me even more to look forward to. i'm so all over the place at the moment emotionally that i can't even make a decision about what to have for dinner tonight so i really don't think it's a good time to be making such a huge decision...i'll try to leave it i think...i'll see what dp says on the day of my next ob appointment...
Stick to your guns! I didn't find out the sex of my baby either, and I'm glad I haven't. Everyone needs a surprise, and if you find out now, you'll probably wish you hadn't.
We didn't find out for our first child...It was so exciting, and i thought "I can't wait to hear IT"S A ........"
After going through labour, the moment our son was born, the world stood still. In the time it took to move him from my bottom half to my chest, it was as if there was no-one else in the entire world but me and him. I was so in awe that I didn't hear a single sound, see a single face...nothing.
After sitting there in a daze for 5 minutes, the midwife tapped me on the shoulder and said " do you know what you have mum?" It was only then that I peeked and saw he was a boy....Definatley worth the wait!
This time round, we found out...my son was desperate to know what "his" baby is...and he was with us in the ultrasound, and was delighted to hear that he was getting "someone to play rough with me!"
I feel that we're having a boy and DH doesn't want to find out, but I do...I found out with my first one and felt like I bonded with him knowing what the sex was.
I think DH is coming around to wanting to find out, but if he doesn't want to know I won't tell him. I'm still referring to our little Ramlet as "he"!! Either way, I don't mind what we have as long as the little bundle is healthy!!
Gracie, I feel as if I am in exactly the same position. I'm in my first pregnancy and am almost 31 weeks. From the beginning I was adament about not finding out the sex, although hubby was desperate but he respected my feelings and indulged my desires not to know. Then about three weeks ago I started going nuts about finding out...I dont know why but something inside me just clicked and I've had the strongest desire to find out! However, I lasted through my 30 week scan, and figured that I've lasted this long and that I'd be mad to go back on my initial feelings now (much to hubby's dismay!)...plus I think I'd go overboard on the shopping front as I keep seeing sooooo much cute baby stuff out there!
I suggest staying strong - you're almost there!
That said, next time around I think we'll find out at 20 weeks!
we found out and have absolutely no regrets, helped us with bonding, preparation etc...just depends on your personality i think, there is no "best" way...
BUT very important point - you may not be able to find out now, I knew someone that had a couple of scans at 30 weeks and they said the baby was bigger and "doubled over" if you know what I mean - which means you cant see as well. so its not the case that the later in the preg that you get the scan, the more likely you will be able to find out - in fact it might be the opposite.
just saying, even if you decide to find out, dont get your hopes up that you will be able to.
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