I am so impatient too and I looked at it as we have had 2 surprises.

The day we found out at the scan was honestly the most exciting day of my life. Not a day goes by when i don't think about my little boy and wonder what he will be like and how is life will be.

I now feel that when I give birth we will have another great surprise by meeting our little man and the excitement has been building since 20 weeks. It certainly won't ruin the surprise of seeing him for the first time already knowing what he is. I think the gift of meeting him will be the most amazing moment for us.

So don't necessarily base your decision on ruining the surprise 'on the day'. Giving birth will be surpise enough!!

You have to just think if you find out now will it make a huge difference in the next 12 weeks or can you hold out so that you don't blurt it out to everyone!

We have managed not to tell anyone that we are having a boy, although I have nearly slipped up a few times