I know there are quite a few of us out there that have decided to wait until birth for the big gender surprise. I waited with both BUT did have sex written down and sealed in an envelope to open after birth to see if they were right!!
My big question to all of you is.... Did you ever had any concerns about the long wait? Nope never I loved the idea of a surprise at end of labour!
Did you ever swing or hope for one way or the other? Yes 2nd time round I hoped for a girl.
Were you ever worried that you might end up ever so slightly disappointed at the outcome? Yes I was and when DH said its a big boy at the CS I was disapointed for a nano second and then was just happy we had a healthy live baby.
If you had gender dreams, what gender did you dream and what did you end up having? I didn't have dreams but felt all along was a boy both times.
Did you ever get sick of the constant whinging from other people about them wanting to know?
Nah, that s their problem. and to be honest most friends also had not found out sex helps working in mid.
With names, did you ever want another bub just because you think both the chosen boy and girl name was just perfect? Nope I loved both our names each time so not issue.
Was there difficulty knowing what to buy for bub, especially if there was a sale on, especially since gender neutral items seem to be rather difficult to come by these days? No as I bought all neautral newnorn things anyway.
lol I have actually been thinking about doing the whole double layby thing because there is a huge toy/nursiary sale on atm and I really don't want to miss on the things I want that I can't get as neutral lol
I keep asking my OB to write it down but he always conveinently "forgets" lol. He just knows me to well IMO
My big question to all of you is.... Did you ever had any concerns about the long wait?
None at all, which was surprising, as normally I am very impatient.
Did you ever swing or hope for one way or the other?
To be honest I started out with a slight leaning towards wanting a girl with my first, but overall was not fussed. It was not until well into the pregnancy that I realised that I really wanted a girl. Everytime someone would say "Oh, I think you are having a boy" I would get upset. So I kind of worked out that I had an underlying gender preference, which did surprise me. MIL always referring to the baby as a boy did have some influence I think.
Were you ever worried that you might end up ever so slightly disappointed at the outcome? Yes (see above)
If you had gender dreams, what gender did you dream and what did you end up having? With DD1 I dreamt she was a girl before I even knew I was pregnant, it was having the dream that made me test. I also dreamt of the birth date and that was right as well. No dreams with DD2, had no clue with her at all.
Did you ever get sick of the constant whinging from other people about them wanting to know? No-one actually whinged that they wanted to know. Thankfully family had the same attitude as mine with keeping it a surprise. I was sick to death of others (work collegues, friends, strangers), who were "OMG" at us not finding out. Normally it was the younger childless ones who did that. Saying that though, I did cope absolute abuse (and I mean abuse) from a new father at work, who insisted that I HAD to find out, that there was no way I could be organised, make decisions, blah, blah. His reaction was just so over the top, it was scary.
With names, did you ever want another bub just because you think both the chosen boy and girl name was just perfect? No, don't think so. If anything I dreaded having a boy second time around due to our boy name choice. Loved it first time around, but DH spoiled it by telling MIL, who then (in the midst of me having severe PND), blurted out that she loved my boy name. There was no way I was using it after that. DH and I could not agree on a boy name after that. Even after DD2 was born MILwould not say "if you had a boy", she would say "If you had Erik"
Was there difficulty knowing what to buy for bub, especially if there was a sale on, especially since gender neutral items seem to be rather difficult to come by these days?Not really, I did not want to buy too much to begin with. Did not really know first time around what I would like, what would work, size etc. So I kept it pretty minimal. Also as we were planning another, I wanted gender neutral, so it would not matter if the second bub was a different gender. Honestly if I had known, I would have bought way to much stuff
My big question to all of you is.... Did you ever had any concerns about the long wait?
It was a long wait to have a healthy pregnancy. That was way harder than waiting to find out what bits it had.
Did you ever swing or hope for one way or the other?
No.
If you had gender dreams, what gender did you dream and what did you end up having?
I had girl dreams, well, specifically pink nappy dreams! And I had a little girl.
Did you ever get sick of the constant whinging from other people about them wanting to know?
Nobody whinged! A lot of people were thrilled with our choice not to know. With names, did you ever want another bub just because you think both the chosen boy and girl name was just perfect?
We really struggle with boys' names. so it's nice to know we won't have to think of another one now! Was there difficulty knowing what to buy for bub, especially if there was a sale on, especially since gender neutral items seem to be rather difficult to come by these days?
We didn't buy anything. A few gender neutral thing in op shops. To this day all I've bought it a few white singlets, spencers and Wondersuits, a dress and cardigan and a set of pyjamas. Everything else has been a gift or handmedown (or very cheaply bought 2nd hand)
We'll have another baby, and I'd like to re-use as much as possible. So I try to stick to gender neutral wherever I can.
I've just remembered my GP asking me how I would know what colour to paint the baby's bedroom if I didn't know the gender!
Ummm... the same colour as the rest of the house..?!
I am 2 weeks away from having my second and once again we didn't find out the sex. My Husband desperately wanted to know for both but I really wanted the surprise so we didn't find out.
Last time as it was our first baby I wasn't concerned at all about any disappointment, and I said from about 12 weeks I had a strong feeling we would get a girl, and we did, and we were both so happy that she was healthy.
This time I am a LITTLE concerned about disappointment, personally I would love another girl but would be equally happy with a boy, but I can tell my Husband is really hoping for a boy as this will be our last child. I keep telling him I feel like we will get another girl but he is convinced it's a boy. It doesn't help that my MIL keeps telling him she has dreams about us having a boy! But at the end of the day I know he will be happy with whatever we have as long as it's healthy so it is not a huge concern to me.
As for buying gender neutral clothes etc, I don't think this is even an issue. I have had this conversation so many times with other pregnant friends, they all found out and tell me they did it as they wanted to 'be prepared' and go shopping for the right things...I really think people just place too much emphasis on the whole 'shopping business'...really, boy OR girl, all babies need the same things for those first few weeks, it is easy to buy white or neutral colours for those first few days and most people will get lots of clothes and presents given to them after the birth so it's not a big deal. Plus it's fun going out shopping for things once the baby is here, it doesn't have to be before they arrive. Our parents were never able to find out what sex we were but they seemed to be 'prepared' for us!
We didn't find out last time and I didn't have a baby shower either but by the time we got home from hospital we had plenty of pink clothes etc to keep us going until I felt like going shopping myself, and we had plenty of neutral stuff that I had bought as well. It's also fairly easy to decorate a room in neutral colours and then when you know what you have you can buy a few things to add to the room to make it for a boy or girl.
The thing that made me really want to keep the surprise the second time around was thinking back to my daughters birth - the most amazing moment through the whole thing was when she was placed on my chest and I yelled out 'OMG IT'S A GIRL!!!'. That is my favourite memory and still gives me goosebumps to think about it, I don't think I would've had the same reaction if we had found out during the ultrasound, I just don't think it would be quite as exciting without the 40 weeks of excitement and build up leading to it!
It's that excitement that I'm looking forwards to
I kind of expect bub to be a girl but have hope for another DS lol.
Had myself a huge blow up over people pestering me the other day. Was told that I had made an unintelligent decision that is right up there with parachuting out of a plane during birth for the experience :| oh and that the reason I was trying to get them to understand wasn't because of me just trying to explain to them why, but because I was trying to convince myself that I made the right decision and all I care about is destroying my life and that of those around me..
It's just a ****ing gender that wont be found out for about month! Totally don't see the big deal about finding out sooner TBH. Both are great experiences and so I want to experience both.
Ended up getting my shopping finished Brough some neutral things but also put two laybys one, one of a few girly things and one of a few boy things. Have about 10 outfits either way now including 0000 and 000. Everything else I can easily get handed down after bub comes. Have offers coming left, right and centre lol.
I must admit that I do have fun when people ask me what I'm having... I answer with "yup, a baby"
Just one more month to go and I get to hold my baby in my arms
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Brough some neutral things but also put two laybys one, one of a few girly things and one of a few boy things. Have about 10 outfits either way now including 0000 and 000. Everything else I can easily get handed down after bub comes. Have offers coming left, right and centre lol.
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