Sometimes it crosses my mind but then I think "Meh" and I fall asleep.
Is there anything that I can do?? DH is getting more and more frustrated. Not just in the bedroom, just in general.
With DD's pregnancy I never had any kind of labido loss.
But, from Day 1, I just cannot be bothered.
TBH, I enjoy myself once we 'get going', but I have to struggle to stay awake during foreplay (it's me, not DH). The thought of it makes me soooo drowsy.
Was there something that helped?? Will my drive come back soon, before bub is born??
I'm really annoyed at myself.
With DD1 we didn't DTD for most of her pregnancy because I was terrified of having another m/c. I had absolutely no interest in DTD with DD2. This time I've been, um, a bit the opposite DH thought life could never get so good through probably the first trimester and a half. Things then changed and I felt incredibly nauseous which was exacerbated by DTD, so DH ended up taking a LOT of cold showers. Since about 28 odd weeks nothing could interest me less so DH is still taking cold showers.
Its hard not to feel guilty. My DH isn't particularly vocal about DTD, comments etc but when he makes a rare one, which is always in jest, I feel very guilty. He understands though, and its not like we don't love them anymore. I think its one of those things that everyone is going to be different, and if I'm anything to go by every pregnancy is different too.
Yeah, my hubby wanted to know when "all that hot, horny, pregnant sex" was going to turn up when we were preggers with DD........ It never did and I think he is still waiting for it!!! Fingers crossed for next time I guess....
I have no desire for it what so ever! at first it was because I was scared of having another miscarriage (and DH felt the same way anyway, he thinks rubbing my belly too hard can hurt the baby!!!!) but now (even if I was sure everything would be fine) I have no interest in DTD... the way I look at it, DH can take care of it himself in the shower! lol
No advice here but be reassured you're not the only one. My pregnancy so far has definitely been plagued by the low libido fairy. Thankfully DH has been very understanding. Things have usually been good when I've finally managed to get in the mood so at least there's some quality if not quantity.
I'm the same. Body issues mostly and it doesn't help that DH has a crap libido due to some antidepressant medication he's on. I miss the intimacy mostly because the lack of it has effected our relationship outside of the bedroom. I feel a bit disconnected from him at the moment.
Also, it doesn't help that we're sleeping in different beds due to my need for 'the great wall of pillows!!' but we thought it was best for us both.
I was thinking the exact same thing today and was going to post for advice!
I'm very much the same in that I really can't be bothered, but more so scared. I'm only 6 weeks and have a fibroid and im so paranoid about any extra pressure down there causing a m/c, which I know is just stupid but I can't help it. I apologized to DP and explained how I was feeling about it, he said he understood and was a bit scared himself. It's our 1st so naturally concerned! Still feel guilty though
Rest assured you are definitely not alone and I'm sure things will improve, just might take some time perhaps schedule some mummy and daddy time to do something romantic, doesn't have to be revolved around DTD but I think for most of us women, without that intimacy it's really hard to get going.
I'm in the same boat and feel really guilty about it even though DH, while he gets frustrated, is good about it. I miss the intimacy too though, like you said BR, but can totally do without the hot and heavy stuff . A part of me i think is scared it will hurt me or the baby which I know isn't true. Early on in the pregnancy we were getting into it and I started to have a Braxton hicks contraction which I know from my googling is normal but it freaked me out so much I don't want it to happen again. Plus it's uncomfy, I'm tired, have other things on my mind and get very irritable with all the touching that goes on lol. I find my skin is hypersensitive since being pg.
Its like my body's purpose is now for something else. It no longer is for pleasure. It no longer does what I want it too, even if I did feel like it. And it has much greater priorities, like growing a baby.
I'm really hoping for a straightforward birth, quick and good recovery of my lady bits, a baby that sleeps well and a return of my libido so we can get back to sharing that part of our relationship.
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DH thought life could never get so good through probably the first trimester and a half. Things then changed and I felt incredibly nauseous which was exacerbated by DTD, so DH ended up taking a LOT of cold showers. Since about 28 odd weeks nothing could interest me less so DH is still taking cold showers.
. A part of me i think is scared it will hurt me or the baby which I know isn't true. Early on in the pregnancy we were getting into it and I started to have a Braxton hicks contraction which I know from my googling is normal but it freaked me out so much I don't want it to happen again. Plus it's uncomfy, I'm tired, have other things on my mind and get very irritable with all the touching that goes on lol. I find my skin is hypersensitive since being pg.
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