See someone! I saw a physio who initially just gave me horrendous pain by agitating the area, then nothing much more. After the birth they said BFing was making it worse. Not happy with that explanation! So I asked around and was recommended a good osteo. Never looked back.
It's amazing how many doctors just couldn't give a damn about investigating 'peripheral' pain that women tell them about in pregnancy...if it's outside the womb, the doctor shrugs his (usually a he!) shoulders and assumes you're just one of those women who can't just be grateful to have a healthy foetus! Anyway, don't take no for an answer, or 'it goes with the territory, live with it'.
Also, if DH just isn't physically around to help out I see two options. No, three. The first is to leave it until he does get home. The second is to ask a friend or relative to do it for you. The third is to pay someone to come in a couple of times a week to do the jobs that really have to be done (laundry, vacuuming) that are not good for your posture. It is REALLY important to avoid postures that take you away from balancing on both feet evenly!
I was so clueless pre-birth, and had I known what I know now, hiring someone would have been my option (my parents had moved to the country and everyone else seemed so busy).
Force that village to look after you, even if you have to throw money at it! Women weren't always expected to do everything in pregnancy and post-pregnancy, it's a product of post-Industrialisation