OP
i am not gonna sugar coat it- its damm scary to start with!
But you know what- the fact that you are worried and scared means that you will be a great mum!!!!
I was lucky my twins came home 'house trained' - special care for 33 days lol
but its still scary- up until i had my own kids i had never even changed a nappy before- and only held a bub a couple of times!
But what got me through was a great support network- people to turn to who do make sense and are supportive for the right reasons. It took me about 6 months for me to find a network that was positive for me- it wasnt my first attempt- but once i found it- i felt normal and real again
You are just around the corner from me ! Use me as part of your network- more than willinging to be. A friendly ear, a chat, a coffee at monty or just a question, no matter how small are no bother to me at all!!
I am so lucky that my support network are still around me and ready to jump in as soon as this bubba is born- to remind me that the horror times are 'only a phase', to give the reality check that i am doing a good job, and to be a shoulder when i need it!
My best bit of advice to you is to never doubt yourself!! You will know what is best- it is part of your instinct. Take everyones advice with a grain of salt and only take on board what works for you!!
Being a mother and holding your newborn in your hands for the first time is the most amazing, scariest, and awesome things that you will ever do!!
Enjoy the last few weeks with your DH until 2 becomes three and savour every day- as they go sooo quick!!
mwah
I had a chuckle at your twins coming home "house trained"!
At least I have my niece, who I affectionately refer to as my practice baby... but sometimes holding her makes me all the more worried about what I will do when it is my little one!
OP the way I tried to think about it was, it always takes a few months to get the hang of any new job - and motherhood is no different... so be patient with yourself, accept that it will take time to feel confident that you know what you are doing! I got some very good advice, probably the best was to take the time to observe your baby, you will learn a lot that way. if you are a member of a library, go and borrow some baby care books and have a read. In a few months time you will be doing what I'm doing right now, watching my baby girl smile in her sleep while posting on BB.
GL hon!
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