I'm so pleased that this questions was asked. Dh and I have on occasions done the deed however lately its not very often at all. We did try a couple of nights ago and boy o boy it was uncomfortable not to mention painful. I don't know if thats normal or not but I think we'll have to do other things from now on. It didn't matter what possie we tried either although we didn't try the "spoon". Maybe that would be ok for now.