thanx Monnie.........I have told her changing schools isnt an option that bullying happens at every school. I cant help but think it has had something to do with DD party though as all the others that she went to primary school were invited I did make her invite this girl aswell, but apparently she spat on the invite in front of her and told her she wouldnt lower herself to come to a "Scrags party as she put it." I am so tempted to call this girls mum in the morning but I know it wont do any good. I will go to the libary tommorrow and try to find the books you have listed.