On the funding - it's given to the school to see fit to distribute. The mother is right on this one. I'm not sure if she is right about the state/federal funding - but I know I'm right about the % levels. I had to take DS out of his beautiful independent school (yep, paid a fair level of fees too) because they couldn't afford the aide and the little funding is also 5000 times harder to get in non-govt. I wasn't happy but it wasn't the schools fault. I felt pretty sad my educational choice was taken away. Worms worms worms!

Whoa on the SPEAKING VERY SLOWLY. It doesn't show much understanding but maybe she needs time to get to know the child (*cough - who talks to anyone like that though?). I wouldn't call that a good example for the other children either. I suppose I'm lucky that each and every aide that DS deals with is like some sort of mystic angel to me. Every, single one of them appear to understand is needs very quickly....but then again he has Aspergers and these kids are pretty much everywhere...in every single class in every single school in the universe.

It seems the school is bending over backwards to accomodate this woman...maybe due to her aggression who knows. I'm not sure what I would do myself. Do you think it will really negatively impact on the other students? It's far from a perfect situation, but if the school can't cater to her, they just can't. That won't be your call in the end though anyway. Although as a parent I feel you have the right to enquire about what's going on.