My dd who is 5 doesn't like me to call her baby but I'm allowed to call her my baby girl. Yeh I don't get it either
5 year old are funny little things. Maybe sit down with him and ask him if there is another cute name you can call him. For example my almost 8 year old I call my baby boy but he prefers boo 1 and that's his choice
I totally get that you feel he is still your baby, but I also feel that by not listening when he has asked you to stop is not showing him that it is ok to ask for actions he doesn't like to stop and being respected for the decision.
As for your DP not backing you up, I must admit (whether rightly or wrongly) have pulled DH up in a similar instance. We are teaching our kids (5 and 3) that it is ok for you ask someone to stop doing something you don't like, whether it be tickling, saying what we are being affectionate names, etc, but if they don't like it, they are allowed to ask us to stop and we must stop.
Maybe my motives are different but I want my children to understand from a young age, it is ok for them to ask for anything they don't like to be stopped, and that it is ok to tell someone else if they aren't being listened to.. So unless there is a dangerous consequence that could happen if we listen to our children's request, then we will stop it.. No matter how hard it is for us. And if need be, I will pull my DH up on it again, as I would expect him to.. Most over things, we have a united front though.
Last edited by Doing my best; August 12th, 2013 at 07:45 AM.
Like you said, you know you have to stop calling him baby. As for reminding him he will always be *your* baby, perhaps it is also time to recognise that he may not need to be reminded. He knows who you are, and he knows you will always be there for him. Perhaps it is now time to put more emphasis on building him up, in encouraging and nurturing this new-found desire for independent identity. Is it possible you could recognise that your DS is not you baby any longer, but rather your boy; your young man.
We all know he will always be your baby! They all will. but maybe he doesn't need to hear that now.
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