Desperately need help...can a 7 year old get af??

***becstar*** · November 10th, 2009, 06:07 AM

Good luck Skye!! I'm so curious now

Hoping all is ok for you both, and yes, us Mum's are VERY good at keeping it together when we have to

huge

xxx

**Jaycee** · November 10th, 2009, 06:59 AM

Good luck getting in to the doctors, if I lived closer I'd be over there in a jiffy to help you out

**squidipa** · November 10th, 2009, 07:03 AM

Do you think they'd test her for abuse? If so, does anyone know what that would involve? I'm not so sure I want them to go too far in case all the seeing whats up leaves her feeling violated...
Does that make sense? Do you get what I mean?

they normally get the child to stand on a bed and they have a little look with a light at that area no actual going into it , thats what makes it hard for victims of that age because if there is no obvious sign on the outside well thats as far as they look. they understand its uncomfortable and tramatic for them to look sometimes they may move the flaps away to see.

**danniellabella** · November 10th, 2009, 07:21 AM

One thing that crossed my mind - is there a possibility that she's tried to put something inside herself and that might have caused some bleeding?

**~clover~** · November 10th, 2009, 07:23 AM

I thought that to Danni, but I really don't think so. She gave me a similar 'why?' look to the look she gave me when I asked about boys.

I rang our gp. Told the receptionist whats happening & she's putting a message straight through to him.

**Inanna** · November 10th, 2009, 07:31 AM

I think it's important not to send her to school without some protection. Can't she use one of your liners - it doesn't matter if its black.

As for the doctor. You need to just go about this as a body part. Yep it's private & I am sure you've taught her that. If she had had a spill and hurt her vulval area you would look, a doctor would look. That's what's going to happen. As for signs of abuse. Abuse that has caused bleeding typically causes exterior damage. That will be seen on examination. It's far too late now for a semen test - she has bathed etc so that won't be done. The Doctor will use a swab perhaps to help with his examination. The lips of the labia will be very small in most young girls & he certainly will NOT or SHOULD not do anything too invasive. It will be very clear from the outside if damage has been done. He will tell you if the hymen is intact.

Good luck & I have been thinking of you a lot.

***charmalea*** · November 10th, 2009, 07:50 AM

hugs hun .. we are all thinking of you and dd xxxx

**Footsteps** · November 10th, 2009, 08:01 AM

huge hugs skye to you and dd. xxxx

**prama** · November 10th, 2009, 08:11 AM

skye - hope you got a dr.'s appt. and that your mum can bring her car around as well.

**PumpkinZulu** · November 10th, 2009, 08:19 AM

been thinking about you and dd, I hope you get a doctors appointment and that all is well

DoubleK · November 10th, 2009, 08:21 AM

oh Skye, i hope you get some answers soon hun.

**New Dawn** · November 10th, 2009, 08:29 AM

you are doing all the right things,

best of luck at the doctors

**Ryatha** · November 10th, 2009, 09:56 AM

hope things are going well

**~clover~** · November 10th, 2009, 10:02 AM

We have an appointment with a female gp tomorrow morning at 10am.
Mum's going to come here in her car, then I'll drop her out at work & head back in for the doc.

I don't think I'll have net access after though. I'm waiting in town til mum finishes & having all the kids stuff ready to go coz the girls are staying with mum, while I go with the friend to get my car.
If I have the credit on my phone I'll try to post an update tomorrow arv sometime. If I don't do that I won't be back til Friday night, so I'll try to get on somehow.