Did I do the right thing re: Lunch for the kids

[ss_storm]

Yep, if she's not happy with what you are making or can't make a decision when you ask then she can make her own! Seems fair to me! I'm sure once she realises those are the options she will know what is easier for her!

[KitFaerie]

My parents had the ''eat what we eat or make it yourself'' rule. Worked just fine, and I plan on doing the same thing with my son. Although there was a memorable occasion when my sister ate a whole bowl of melted cheese for breakfast.

[LimeSlice]

DD1 is still a little young for "make it yourself" - and TBH, that isn't how it will work.

I make lunch. Most of the time she is given Choice A or Choice B - that is her decision. Beyond that, it is eat it or not, but there is nothing else til dinner. So you can go hungry and waste the food (a big thing in the house at the moment since she sat down and watched some River Cottage episodes about killing the animals and what not, she isn't keen on wasting food at the moment) or you can eat it. But there is no other options.

Perhaps try limiting her choice a bit. Instead of "What do you want?" try "Which would you prefer, A, B, or C?".

[Astrid]

Thanks for the advice. Must admit my brain is often too fried to try and offer 2 or 3 choices, which is probably why I have gone for the "what do you want?" Hard enough at times thinking of one

[Rouge]

I cook they eat it. Or they go without. Or there's fruit.

I don't go out of my way to cook things they will hate and if it's a new food then I'll gladly let them have a sandwich. But the food may be restaurant quality (oh I am so funneeeee!) but it ain't a restaurant.

Today we had fish tacos for lunch. They ate it. DS pulled the salad out and said it fell out. So he had to eat it by itself. Next time he'll know that trick doesn't work and it actually tastes better altogether. But he didn't complain too much.

[Tinks]

I cook they eat it. Or they go without. Or there's fruit.

This is pretty much what happens in our house.

[WannabeMum]

For tea it's like it or lump it here. Lunch? I too will ask DS "what do you want", but that's cos I know 90% of the time he'll just ask for a peanut butter sandwich. If he doesn't know, I say, would you like A or B. He's way too little to get it himself (although he does help himself to yoghurt and fruit). He gets his own brekky with a little help.

As someone said, if she's old enough and can't make a decision, too bad, get your own I reckon.