Thanks for your advice

I haven't been discouraging the friendship or anything, in fact she spent the weekend at the girl's house. I'm trying to make her realise that she has her own mind and can make her own decisions instead of following L and to teach her about the implications of lying about her teachers and peers. Just dosen't seem that I'm getting through.

I would love to change her school preference but the school she's going to is the only high school (public or private) in the area, she'd have to travel over an hour each way to another one which I dont' really like the idea of. There are over 10 feeder schools for this high school so I'm hoping like mad that she and L become friends with other girls and go their own seperate ways at some stage next year.

L has very little parental supervision, I went to pick DD up yesterday and there were no parents in sight. She also was dropped off at the local pool by L's mother where they spent the day unsupervised. I had a phone call from Dd saying she was going to the pool but nothing was mentioned about going alone, I don't think DD even knew until they were there.

Another sore point is Facebook. L has FB, I'm sure her mother has no idea what it is or she's up to on it. L keeps harping on about FB to DD which results in DD begging for a FB page. Our rule for FB is 13, she knows this and I'm NOT going to budge. I don't believe an 11 yo girls needs FB. She has MSN and will be getting a mobile phne for Christmas, so it's not as though she's cut off from everyone.

At this point, I know DD will not abuse my trust, she's a very good girl who doesn't like doing the wrong thing. That's now, at 11 though. I'm so worried that L will go off the rails as she gets older and DD will follow.