I'm assuming your DDs friend is the same age? My opinion, which you will likely disagree with, is that it is her body and you should ignore YOUR feelings about her being dressed inappropriately, and treat her as though you would if she was wearing her school uniform, or trackpants and a tshirt. It's just a body. We are all different shapes and sizes. It's very possible that she is self-conscious about being a larger girl (I truly hope she is completely oblivious to being 'larger') and so telling her to cover up, I think, even if you think you're doing it 'nicely' by offering her your shorts, is unnecessary and cruel. Perhaps her parents couldn't afford new swimwear this summer and she's outgrown her swimmers from last year? At that age, if that were the case for me I would have already been embarrassed but even more embarrassed if someone pointed out that my bathers were too small, or that I was too big.
It also might be a great lesson for your boys in maturity an acceptance if you tell them you expect them to treat your DDs friend with dignity and respect.
Dianne I understand where you are coming from. Yes she may be comfortable in her skin, but it's YOUR house so if you feel uncomfortable then it's your right to say something. Basically from what I understand it's like she's wearing a g-string bottom because the togs are riding up? I think that it's perfectly acceptable for you to ask her to cover up a bare bottom.
Ok, maybe I'm just an old fuddy duddy but I"m talking about close to a g-string and I'm quite shocked by some of the responses. Would you truly send your 9yr old out like this?
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