Teen Drama Queen - Is It Because She Thinks She's Boring?

[Rivlas]

Good on your daughter for doing what she did, you must be very proud of her.
I think she should confront this girl and tell her that she has had enough of her behaviour and her lying. She chose to leave at that time of night, then tell a lie, then expects others to fix her lies. She needs to be told to think/consider others just not herself. She might be surprised what she sees, that there are other people on earth besides herself
What parent wants the phone ringing that time of night, let alone her DD having to deal with something she shouldn't have to.

[misty]

I wasn't a drama queen as a teenager, because I was (and am) a very private person. But I do remember (especially when I read back through my diary) how dramatic and OTT everything felt. Even little things which were really nothing seemed like such an emotional rollercoaster. I believe (in hindsight) I also had depression as a teenager, which no doubt made everything even more dramatic and OTT. It literally felt like the simplest thing was the end of the world.

Depression amongst teenagers is extremely common, and often displays itself in a completely different manner to how it might in an adult. Being a dramaqueen may be a symptom of this. I wish someone had of been able to tell me what was wrong with me as a teenager, because I had no idea, and struggled with many things that everyone else seemed to think shouldn't have even mattered at all.

Just a thought that maybe something similar is going on with this girl??

[AnyDream]

I think she should confront this girl and tell her that she has had enough of her behaviour and her lying.

I don't think the girl in question is actually lying. She's just perceiving/processing what's happened through a clouded inner filter. She needs help - to clean that filter up so that it's useful to her - not condemnation.

[Rivlas]

Sorry, I might have said it the wrong way.
I meant to say she needs to know that her behaviour is wrong but in a nice way.
I know school is finished for the year so not much can be done now but maybe at the start of next school year, if she is still like this, she could talk to the school councillor or someone like that.

[AnyDream]

It's definitely a learning process, isn't it Rivlas. I agree someone in her life needs to help her learn how to curtail this behaviour. She needs to understand this before she hits adulthood, or life is gonna get a lot harder.

[Lulu]

Peers can be pretty good for this, might be a steep learning curve though. Hopefully she will grow out of it.

[Curly]

It's attention seeking. She is desperately seeking reassurance that people care about her. Boring she may or may not be...I'd say she doesn't know who she is yet and doesn't have a strong sense of her own identity as a person or much in the way of a sense of self-worth.

It is emotional neediness that is causing this behaviour. Same with your daughter's friend, Lulu. She is frightened nobody likes her and that she doesn't have any true friends.