Sorry Sue, I did read your last post but I didn't see anything there saying you had tried counselling.. I will go back & look again.

because i dont hav ea father or husband to stand up for me my kid shave learnt that they can treat me any which way and get away with it and there is nothing i can do . the things they have put me through are mind boggling and hard to forgive or recover from, but i just have to keep knowing that i didnt deserve that at all quite the opposite , but they were troubled.
You need to teach them that they can't treat you like that... being troubled is no excuse for disrespecting your family. If you allow 'being troubled' to be an excuse they will continue to do it. Same goes for your mother. If she's tormenting you - it might be time to step away. You don't need it, and as you say, you don't deserve it.

I really hope things get better for you soon.
Good luck