Yes! I forgot to add that a third party counselor would probably be beneficial... although you have to somehow find the right one and that can be tricky. I had a few when I was younger and they were awful. One guy said I had to meditate more and proceeded to show me how to do it, suggesting I follow his instructions... so on he went... for ages and ages while I just sat and stared at him with tears in my eyes because he was so caught up in his own business that I was irrelevant... just how it was at home.... I was 18.

I also meant to clarify that I don't think those careers I mentioned, childcare etc, are 'lowly'... it's just that the pay was shocking ($12 an hour at the childcare centre i worked at)... I knew that I could do more with my career and that I was worth more than $12 an hour... hence my commitment into gaining a qualification.

I think your SD will want to return too. Just a intuitive feeling. Once again, she knows quality parenting (ie from you) and even though it might be more strict, kids prefer that if it comes with love.