Nobody wants to play with him -LOOONG

[Pretty Butterfly]

I guess they think that he is in the wrong because he offered them the money. He is only 7 and just turned 7 too. But the others are 8-9 yo, they should not have accepted it.

I will ask the school about a buddy system. Does it work?

He has started having an attitude at home too. I guess it all stems from school.

Oh babe, I feel your frustration....


My 11, 12 yr olds would never of taken the money, but my 8 yr old would of grabbed it and ran to the tuck shop I'm afraid... he would of thought it was christmas, and not second guessed it....

Our school has a buddy system and its great. Also a zero tolerance on bullying. But we are lucky, our school is on 2 campuses.
Kinder -2 on one, 3-6 on another. Although your son would be at the big campsus anyway, it helps keep little kids from the really big ones!!

Also ask if there a few "nice" boys that could hang with him.... usually within a few weeks they end up friends too....

[Turkish Delight]

He goes to an independant school. They have a psychcologist at his school and we had a meeting late last year about DS and his G&T situation. They have done nothing about a gifted policy or any other kids in his situation. I have been told though that they do favour their own children when it comes to extending curriculum for them. In this meeting, not only will i bring up this current situation but also our meeting last year and that i haven't seen any progress. I was kept on being told that my child was not the only gifted one.

I so agree about taking money school. In our days, we used to taken to the Mother's day during class time and first thing too. With DS's school he needs to go during lunch or recess. i will definitely bring this point up (thanks )

About the Guidance Officer, i will ask for one (thanks ). You would think they would nurture these kids to bring out their best, but i too think that they are a burden on the school as they need so much more attention than regular kids. i will ask the school if he is a burden and will take him out ASAP.

I was told only yesterday how lucky i was to have a gifted child and i told them that i was not lucky at all and how much work it takes to raise them. Everybody thinks its so easy, but honestly i am tired and have run into a dead end on how to handle him and his situation. I would give anything to have a normal well balanced child. My DD is also showing signs of giftedness too

Pretty Butterfly - i agree with you. If DS was given money he too would run straight to the canteen to gorge out, but this kid going and buying his mother a gift really made me even more mad.

[Pretty Butterfly]

Pretty Butterfly - i agree with you. If DS was given money he too would run straight to the canteen to gorge out, but this kid going and buying his mother a gift really made me even more mad.

Definatly!! The mum needs a kick up the pants too, she's gotta know it wasn't her money used!!!

[Inertia]

Ok, well one thing to consider is a school with Opportunity Classes. These are basically classes set up for gifted students in their own year and age group. The school my kids go to have them and we have students from all over the show turning up for them.

One thing we have learnt with working with our own gifted kids, having been there ourselves and with our time doing the journal for NSWAGTC - moving a gifted child up a year never works. Getting the right OC though does wonders.

The fact that the school has done nothing more in the way of helping the gifted students there says that he has basically just been thrown in at the deep end and is expected to swim - in everything. After all - he is gifted, right.

Good luck. Your man does not deserve to be taken advantage of like that.

[boomba]

Oh hun Thats awful! Gee kids are mean! They are probaly jealous your little man is so special!

Hope you get it sorted! Your son sounds liek a beautiful little fella! xx

[cocobambino]

Hun, I didnt even make an appointment, he was always "busy" just bust on down there and demand to see him, I went in the morning when i dropped miah off, there is no way he is busy at that time, u gotta show them u mean business,

PUT SOMETHING IN YOUR BUDGET FOR BULLY AWARENESS RUDD GIVE THE SCHOOLS MORE RESOURCES

[AnyDream]

Hi TD - my DD had some problems at her last school, started with difficulty making friends and grew into a full-blown harrassment scenario.

These are the things that we did that helped:
* Booked regular meetings with class teacher - asked her to instigate a buddy-system within the class and tweak seating arrangements
* Booked meeting with vice-principle - she held a round meeting with the class to iron out the harrassment problem & also gave a chance for other chn to voice the problems they were having with my DD (ie she was unwittingly annoying her classmates by singing to herself during work time LOL and needed to be made aware of the ways she was p*ssing them off).
* Joined Guides Australia - this was the single most important thing we did - it gave DD a community of supportive peers and nourished her socially when things were off at school. You could try a group like scouts or a church-based group depending on what is available locally
* Ultimately though, what helped the most was a move to a new school. This coincided with an interstate move but had we stayed there we would've given it serious consideration. Now DD is in a catholic school and she says the students are much kinder and more considerate generally - plus a lot of things that were social issues at the old school (what clothes, phone, games, etc you have) are not an issue here because of the strict school rules. Something to think about anyway.

Good luck, there is no simple solution - you will have to keep vigilant and keep raising it until it is resolved and then keep an eye on it anyway.

[Turkish Delight]

I really don't know how to handle it anymore, honestly.

I gave DS $15.40 on Monday morning(in an envelope, all labelled with name and what it was for) for an upcoming ICAS test he really wanted to compete in (spelling, computer skills, english and maths). Told him to give it to his teacher when he went to school. His teacher was not in, so gave it to the emergency teacher relieving her for the day. The emrgency teacher didn't take it off him and told him to put it in his bag and give it to his teacher tomorrow when she returned. I asked about it on Monday and told me above and reminded him to give the envelope to his teacher on Tuesday. Come Tuesday after school, i ask DS about the money and he tells me it was not in his bag

I make him tell me the truth and he tells me that he did not give it to anybody, spend it or anything and that he put it in his bag. Kids on his table asked about the money and he told them how much there was and what it was for. I call the school and ask for his teacher to call me back.

She calls yesterday lunchtime and tells me that DS gave it to a fellow student for safe keeping. I was furious.

DS comes home and i confront him about it and starts crying about how that was all a lie and that he did not give it to anybody. He told me that the boy who had it, told DS that he took it out of DS's bag and hid it in the classroom for safekeeping. He got the money eventually from the hiding spot and gave it to his teacher.

I will phone the school now and speak to his teacher, there is obviously some kind of theft involved here.

MD - thanks for the advice. I regularly chat with his teacher on how he is going with work and school in general. He is in an Islamic school with strict rules when compared to public schools. I thought this would be best for him as he was not very social and would be prone to bullying. This is his second school since starting school in 2007 and i don't think i'll move him again, but i have been contemplating on taking him back to his old school though (we had an issue with the bus driver and took him out because of that)

How did you DD react to the class when she was told about her annoying traits? poor bubba.

Inertia - i don't think the VATGC are as well prepared as the NSWATGC I know the NSWAGC have holiday programs and all where as the VATGC have nothing. I haven't approached them as their website is very outdated and i don't that they would do a good job if they can't maintain their website. The school my DS goes to doesn't even have a gifted policy or any extra curricular activities/guidance for these kinds of kids, let alone an OC! I approached them about their gifted policy and they are always seem to be working on it I could not let DS stay down with his own age group as i thought that how would a teacher teach 20 kids grade 2 work whilst teach my son grade 3 work. The school couldn't even give him the right academic excellence award, they had grade 1 on the award when it should have been grade 2.

[Inertia]

TD - Sadly you are correct there. The NSWAGCT also shelters a lot of gifted families from Vic and QLD and have the Albury/Wodonga and Tweed Heads groups set up for them. Even he Australian one is of a poor standard compared to NSW. My sister in QLD tried to get help from the QLD one with her son but they were completely uninterested because he doesnt have autism or aspergers. Its simply not fair on all the whole rest f the country that they can't get the quality assistance we get in NSW.

That said, the NSW is more than happy to give advice to anyone who contacts them for help. They have a very large collective of people - also mothers of gifted kids - who are used to how schools operate on these accounts. Might be worth contacting them for a couple of strategies.