Cranky Kitten, we've been split up for 2 years and have always done every weds and every second weekend, so all it'll involve is them going to him an extra 3 nights a fortnight...they will be 10, 8 and 4 when/if we do it.

so it works for some and not for others...it's hard to know what to do...I feel like i'm trying to make everyone happy except myself

Stoked...can you go into a little more detail (if you don't mind that is)?