It is hard for kids to go from household to household all the time. They have to adapt themselves to the different rules, norms and standards constantly. Just when you get settled in it's time to switch again. How many days does she have in a row at each place?
I wonder if the three of you could possibly sit down together and talk about how you might be able to make it easier for her to live between the two households, eg making similar rules, longer/shorter periods at each, living closer, etc?
You're right - it is a very big decision for a little child to make, but how she feels is important. I would suggest you spend some time digging into the reasons she'd like to change things. perhaps there is a solution that will make things easier for her but still allow you to have a large percentage of her care. If her mum has put the idea in her head, talking about it may uncover this. But tread carefully, you don't want her to feel like you don't believe these are her real feelings if they indeed are.
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