all of the sudden i am out to steal everyone's man?!

[Cherished]

That's really interesting! I have not experienced anything like that due to not being in that situation. Maybe all those female friends who are married are jealous that you are a strong independent woman now who is attractive! Yes YAY for you hon I have to say though that when I met my husband I grew apart from all of my single friends who were my best friends for almost 10 years. There wasn't any falling out so to speak and I wasn't threatened by any of them... we just weren't at the same place anymore. Maybe your female friends don't relate to you anymore, before you were married and they all knew where they stood? Ahhhhh, sigh's I don't know, woman are so strange sometimes. In your case it may be hard for her to see her man have such a great relationship with another woman (you) and to share a close bond with someone other her.

[MantaRay]

Hun, that's not fair

How interesting that she would think you wouldn't respect the sanctity of her marriage, but that if you were still married you'd respect the sanctity of yours. Really, I mean if you are after a married man (which I know you are not!!), then why would your own married status stop you? Hopefully she'll realise how silly she was when she's had some time to think about it.

[kelebek]

I agree it says more about them then it does about you. I also think some woman believe you need a man to be happy so if you don't have one then you must be after theirs

Take it as a compliment and don't take on anything else, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone else.

[sweetbabymumma]

I must admit I was once in a place of a jealous girlfriend. My single friend was spending time with my then-boyfriend, calling him on his mobile, asking for favours, meeting for lunches.. And would never tell me about it, so I was finding it out from here and there bjut mostly from the boyfriend himself. When I confronted her she was so surprised, she never thought it would matter to me, she was just being a friend with my man. Hmm, that's great and all but I were rather she'd back off. Insecure? Yes, definitely. But I think it needs to be respected as she, as her partner, must always come first. Sorry, just my opinion..

[Glamourcide]

Oh, you gotta watch those single girls, they'll take yo' man right out from under ya! :/ God, some people need to grow up. Like you're any more likely to go running around on people when you've got a partner? Or is it that having a man in your life = keeping you on a short leash? Hmm. As others have said, says more about the jealous person than it does about you, especially if you guys all being friends is totally okay when you've got a partner, but suddenly *not* when you're single! Try not to take it too much to heart, it's their issue to work through and you haven't done anything wrong. I guess in a way it's a compliment to both of you - that you're awesome enough to bag a bloke who's already taken, and that he's so great he's worth stealing

Sweetbabymumma, I can totally understand your feelings, I've been there myself (although in my case, the single friend WAS pretty notorious for getting her claws into other people's boyfriends, she never seemed to be interested in a guy until he was spoken for and then it was on like Donkey Kong - but she had her own issues with insecurities and attention-seeking so we just learned to keep close eyes on her), I can definitely respect that I sort of take the safest path, in that I don't talk to my (very few) male friends 'privately', everything is really public (eg I avoid MSN convos and instead have public FB comments where everyone can see what's been said) and I go through their partner/my DH first if I can so that nothing looks hidden... maybe it's dumb but I hate the drama so I go to the ends of the earth to avoid it

[sweetbabymumma]

I go through their partner/my DH first if I can so that nothing looks hidden...

That would've totally saved my relationship with that friend. But unfortunately she didn't understand, and I had to end our friendship. Crappy situation, I know..

[Cassius2]

argh that sucks! but like everyone has been saying this is her insecurity and NOT a reflection on you on who you are. Also it's funny because friendships can go through challenging times when a situation changes. i know that i have experienced ups and downs based on things like relationships, jobs, babies etc. but is always a good chance for reflection and solidifying of rock-solid relationships and in some cases a good chance to 'clear out the stables' so to speak.

hopefully this reaction by your friend was just a storm in a teacup and once she gets used to the idea of seeing you as a different person (ie without husband) she'll settle right back in and you guys can get back on track.