all of the sudden i am out to steal everyone's man?!

[Glamourcide]

Oh, you gotta watch those single girls, they'll take yo' man right out from under ya! :/ God, some people need to grow up. Like you're any more likely to go running around on people when you've got a partner? Or is it that having a man in your life = keeping you on a short leash? Hmm. As others have said, says more about the jealous person than it does about you, especially if you guys all being friends is totally okay when you've got a partner, but suddenly *not* when you're single! Try not to take it too much to heart, it's their issue to work through and you haven't done anything wrong. I guess in a way it's a compliment to both of you - that you're awesome enough to bag a bloke who's already taken, and that he's so great he's worth stealing

Sweetbabymumma, I can totally understand your feelings, I've been there myself (although in my case, the single friend WAS pretty notorious for getting her claws into other people's boyfriends, she never seemed to be interested in a guy until he was spoken for and then it was on like Donkey Kong - but she had her own issues with insecurities and attention-seeking so we just learned to keep close eyes on her), I can definitely respect that I sort of take the safest path, in that I don't talk to my (very few) male friends 'privately', everything is really public (eg I avoid MSN convos and instead have public FB comments where everyone can see what's been said) and I go through their partner/my DH first if I can so that nothing looks hidden... maybe it's dumb but I hate the drama so I go to the ends of the earth to avoid it

[sweetbabymumma]

I go through their partner/my DH first if I can so that nothing looks hidden...

That would've totally saved my relationship with that friend. But unfortunately she didn't understand, and I had to end our friendship. Crappy situation, I know..

[Cassius2]

argh that sucks! but like everyone has been saying this is her insecurity and NOT a reflection on you on who you are. Also it's funny because friendships can go through challenging times when a situation changes. i know that i have experienced ups and downs based on things like relationships, jobs, babies etc. but is always a good chance for reflection and solidifying of rock-solid relationships and in some cases a good chance to 'clear out the stables' so to speak.

hopefully this reaction by your friend was just a storm in a teacup and once she gets used to the idea of seeing you as a different person (ie without husband) she'll settle right back in and you guys can get back on track.

[widdly]

sweetbabymumma, I have been the jealous girlfriend too hun. XH bestie was a woman and she was always trying to turn him against me and be awful to me and make me look like i was making a mountain out of a mole hill. I ended up getting her to confess that she in fact loved XH and wanted to marry him and have his babies. Their friendship ended there and then, without me interfering. It is awful when that happens so i feel for you.

cassius, she is no friend of mine, she is my bestie's SIL thats all, my bestie had her birthday at her brothers house so the SIL was there. I would never choose to be friends with such an insecure drama queen.