in despair

[thepixie]

If I could count the number of times I heard "I was going to... If you'd just waited a bit longer... If you hadn't (whatever) then I would have..." blah blah blah...

yeah BTDT also heard the "I'll change and then you'll be sorry"... sorry Elissa but it really sounds like he is manipulating you. You've done the hard part and moved out, but maybe you haven't quite moved out emotionally. I think you need a break. Some partners and some relationships are just crazy-making and it takes some breathing room to see it for what it is, and how much healthier you are without them.

[widdly]

oh man, I just did a huge post, replying to each of your posts individually, then my internet dropped out!!!!

I cannot thank you guys enough for all the help you are giving me, you are all filling me with the strength and confidence i need to do what needs to be done.

kim - you really reminded me how slack he is being, of course its too easy to shift swap!!

thanks again everyone x