4 times a year. He lives 10kms away.

I have not spoken to my ex in years.

As for Christmas/Birthdays my DD is old enough to decide. He missed the 1st 8yrs at his choice. But then demanded he has her for half of every Christmas and Birthday. DD is has not seen him for the past 2 Christmas's/Birthdays and has no plans on changing that. I don't see why if they can't make the effort at other times of the year (taking out distance as being a problem) they should suddenly be entitled to them for special occassions.

Ex received FTB and a significantly reduced child support due to having DD X amount of times per fortnight which he never does. Its nto worth the back lash of calling child support/centre link and changing anything (no court orders so only verbal)