His surname or mine?

[bon]

Your surname - as the others have said it will be much easier in the long run, if you can't see yourselves being together for long.

[Lulu]

Your, yours, yours yours yours yours!

[mbear]

Even if you wanted his surname, coz your not married, whilst in hospital after you have bubs, baby will be called after your surname.....kinda makes sense to stick to that

[Hollybolly]

I agree - In hospital, they will use whatever your surname is for medicare purposes... I would stick with that and see how you go.

Its always easier to change it to your partners if you stay together than what it is to change it from his back to yours... trust me I've been there

After ex DH & I got divorced, I didn't want to take his name out - Just add my surname in, as I went back to my maiden name.

I got there in the end, but it was painful

[Charmzy]

What does the father want? I know a few people that have gone through disputes over this and legally they were told because of the conflict they had to have it hyphenated.

Technically speaking hubby and I had only been together 3 months when I fell pregnant (unoffically 18 months earlier kind of on off...) but I wanted my surname as my son already had mine and he wanted his and his son had his surname.... our happy medium was to hyphenate the surnames. Now we're married and will eventually change mine, my sons and both of our daughters over to his surname... will be a bit of a hassle but I wanted them 'linked' to me too.

If your partner doesnt mind then give bubs yours, you can always change it to his later... if he does mind then go for hyphenated... put your name first though because my doctors surgery and most places actually drop the second surname.. even on my medicare card my daughters just have my surname.

[The[cookie]Doctor]

I don't think a child should have a name different from it's mothers, so I'm going to say YOURS.
If at a later date you feel that you are committed enough to each other, or that you get married etc, then change it, but if you are at all hesitant now, go with yours.

My partner and I were engaged when bubs was born, but bubs still has my surname. I carried him, i birthed him, surely if i dont have the same surname as his father, i have the right for him to be mine for a while? He's going to have his dad's name the rest of his long life!

Good luck with your decision.

[Maree]

Thanks for all the advice. Due to my long, foreign surname, we can't hyphenate. But I hear you loud and clear, so I'll see if we can get agreement to go with my surname! Not sure how that will go down...