Hi all girls,

I wanted to send you lot's of , this must be a very difficult & confusing time for you at the moment.

he makes me feel like the biggest waste of space, we don't have joint accounts, he has his own money and doesn't give me any and has recently gone sailing in spain for almost 4 weeks and left me with $500
I did want to second what NJ said, it is financial abuse which is domestic violence & it sounds like he is probably verbaly abusive as well. I know it is probably something which is hard to admit because when people think of domestic violence they think of physical abuse but it is so much more, does he also isolate you from your friends & family?

See a family lawyer, seek legal aid, speak to a financial counsellor, speak to a domestic violence hotline, get as much info as you can. Do as lulu has said & make sure you photocopy all documents etc... I would also not leave the house it is unfair to uproot the girls, it is thier home as well. I would suggest that when/if you ask him to leave when the girls aren't around (either at school or someone's house) & I would call the police a few days before hand to let them know so if he does become physically violent they are more likely to get there quicker. Definitely change the locks, is it possible to have a male relative/friend there as well??

Goodluck with your decision...