Oh Elissa ... wish i had magical words for you to hear ... but with what i have read about your relationship in the past & now with EX ... um, oh dear hope i don't sound hard here BUT Ex doesn't seem to have made you anymore happier from back then until now and he doesn't seemed to have really truely improved in very important areas of concern in your relationship with him. He JUST doesn't seemed to be listening or more to the point honestly trying like any man would 'if' he really deep down wanted to be with you ... he would be trying much, much harder. He is of mature enough age to have an idea of what he wants in his life so if that was the case he would be making improvement with you rather then NOT.

Elissa ... you kinda know me and i'm far from being negative so that's not my outcome of this post (as again you would know ) ... So, gorgeous Elissa " IS " it time to let go with a man that hasn't made much of an improvement since your seperation. I worry if you will go through this again & again with him in the future. You don't sound like someone asking for anything out of the ordinary, that would easily explain your tiring of the whole ordeal as that's what it sounds like it has been.

If it's a little bit of happiness with him that's not enough ... and as far as love goes .. you know what i'm gonna say ... yep, harsh but true from my own experiences ... Love it NOT always enough. It feels like you can't find love feeling this way again but Elissa you will be mind blown that it can happen again. Might take some time but there is always a majority rules that there is a lovely man that can make you feel comfortable within life and i don't mean about money but every morning you get up you don't have to think about the if's & what's BUT just live life and feel as content as you can be for the time.

OMG, i could go on & on ... i think that catch up is gotta happen with you & i and we can have a good yarn about blokes ... (and a few laughs too) ... I reckon a nice Summers night in Melb having a pizza on Lygon St would be a great idea later in the year (See how all pans out with us both with dosh situation as the year will no doubt go quickly).

Hope i haven't sounded harsh or negative ... but just speaking out loud with what looks to me as an outsider ... BUT then i don't claim to know a lot ... i guess just enough at my age, LOL

Take super care Elissa ...and cuddles to Archie too from me

P.S - Don't forget you have youth on your side, that's the biggest bonus you have in wanting another child as it gives you lots of time to see it happen ... AND as for jumping in the sack with the Ex ... cough, cough i've had my fair share of that, it's nothing to worry about i mean it's not like you both haven't had sex with each other before ... hello Archie ... AND it's not like you signed on the dotted line of some new commitment. It was a bit of FUN ... yeh, that's ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!