Its over... What to tell the kids?

[all girls]

Thanks Melly01 it is a scary thought being alone forever but maybe i need to be alone for a while, i have been with DH since i was 19 and its been a long and tough road, i was ready to leave last year and he begged me to stay, tried to hang himself etc etc and now he isn't happy. Pffft to him.

So now I have post baby fat, 4 kids big bags under my eyes from lack of sleep and single.... YAY!

I am going to a counsellor on Thursday for me not for our relationship.

Thanks Lizjessie xox

[Enchanted]

hunny.

I have no advice for you hun but just wanted to let you know that you are a great Mummy. I'm sure that the counselling will be fantastic for you and it will be a great outlet for you to vent (as well as here ) Wishing you all the strength and happiness in the world.

[Lulu]

YOu might be surprised by the kids reaction. He has been a total arse to you, they may feel relieved.

I told my kids we wouldnt live together anymore because we fight all the time, it's true. They are so much better off without the tension.

[Beatrix]

Hun Im sorry that your marriage has ended...

But if you anything like me, once he gets out you will feel like a massive weight has been lifted of your shoulders.
I have been on my own for 3mths and its great... Dont get me wrong i have my moments where i feel like i will cave in and tell exH to come back .... but the reason behind this is because i am lonely for company. I just tell myself i want company yes.. but HIS company then NO.

As Lulu said you children have probably picked up on alot you havent even thought they have.. and they would know how unhappy you are.
Just as long as they know both mummy and daddy love them and its not their fault.

Please what ever you do dont use the children to hurt you ex.

My best advice would be seeing as your children (well some) are old nough to help out, give them responsiblilites you will def need the help... This is my biggest problem now.. is having to do everything myself.

Not that he did much when he was here but he still did some. Its the things like popping to the shop to get milk which are my struggle cause i have to load everyone up into a car and its a huge drama.

But you need him out.. with him at home you are def more likley to cave into him.. he is not your responsibility anymore.. give him the basics and send him on his way.. he is not entitled to anything you need for the children and no judge would let him take it either