Just looking for some support...

[kawazuki]

thanx
but dont ever think anything to hard to achieve.. it may just take you on a steeper path than you first thought.

there is always a way to get where you want it life sometime syou have to take the scenic route.. lol well thats how im looking at it anyway.
i only have 5 years left till my kids are all in school so i can do my paramedics or midwery, so i am doing everything now that im able to to give me a leg up in that time. im currently working in a drs surgery as a practice nurse and getting into courses like immunisation and womens health and childrens health checks etc so i have a better understanding of things and keep my ability to learn up..

[Lacey]

I think it's wonderful that you've done so much to get to where you want to be.
Although I'm not studying at the moment I read textbooks on things like bio ethics and the practice of Midwifery as much as possible in order to make things easier for me when I do start studying again. I'm absolutely excited about gaining first hand experience when the baby is born. When I think about it I think my life may have needed this bub to give it purpose. I was pretty lost, but now I feel like everything can and will fall into place. It's a very reassuring thought Quite excited currently!

[newmummy85]

It's great that you're feeling much more positive!! I am too just from reading all these nice posts, and the support and encouragement really does do wonders eh! Sometimes I think we just need a little reminding that we're strong and capable women and will be fine

[SJL]

I am sorry to hear your pregnancy and path to parenthood isnt going very well.

I was never pregnant (my DD is adopted) but I am and have always been a single mum. It can be tough, I have lots of days where I wish I had an extra pair of hands or to be able to go out on my own. But as tough as it gets IT IS WORTH IT! who knows by the time bubs is born the dad may have accepted it and if not you will be a wonderful mum.

Also, studying with children is possible. You may need to take a little bit of time off when bubs is first born and maybe only take on a half study load, but it is manageable. There is a lot of single mums in my course, we all provide heaps of support to each other because we know what each other is going through. There is also a section on this forum about studying where you can get support as well.

Good luck
Sjl

[Mellybubz]

Congratulations on your pregnancy believe me I know EXACTLY what you're going through.
Especially being a nurse, knowing whats going on inside and how amazing it all is. It is so hard because theres this beautiful little miracle and some idiot who doesnt know how special it all is. It really is a privaledge to be pregnant. I had so many friends who either lost babies or couldnt have them so when I fell pregnant even inspite of the circumstance I didnt feel like it was my right to take that babies life away from him.
No matter what happens there will be plenty of people around who will absolutely love your baby to bits. Its tough doing it on your own but trust me it wont be hard to love it.
Again theres tonnes of support there like the family relationships advice like and family relationship centre - they even run courses on making single parenting easier.
All the best with everything and congratulations on your little miracle
Mel
xox

[Inertia]

Lacey, firstly welcome to BB. Great forum, love it here. Hope you do too.

Secondly, and most importantly.... We don't need men anywhere near as much as they would have us believe. That whole "you'll have to do it on your own" line is a gigantic load of self important bullcrap. Women did it on their own for a millennia. Many women still do. Do not let that self esteem flattening statement ever let you doubt your own abilities to raise your child.

Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, he is an absolute treasure... but if anything happened and he wasn't here tomorrow, I know I am capable of being their mum. I love him to bits, but I am not an invalid without him.

I truly despise when men pop that old chestnut out. Its purpose is to make you doubt yourself and walk your own backside to the nearest abortion clinic - and no doubt 99% of the time so he doesnt have to pay child support. If he ever pulls it again just tell him that he will be the one missing out - you and your baby will be just fine!

[fourthontheway]

It's does get easier with time, most definitely! All grief goes in stages and you are gonna feel sad for a while. REpressing the sadness is probably goingto be more harmful to your body and your baby. Just feel sad, it's ok. Lots of love to you, you'll get through it I promise xxx

[Oscar&Grouch]

Lacey- I don't have any advice just here to remind you it will all work out the way its supposed to
you will make a wonderful mummy, with or without your ex! sure it will be alot harder but you have all the support from the great mummies on bb!

Im 21 also, my dp is 24 and although i am not a single mummy ( although it sometimes feels like it) i just know you will be fine, although having a baby wont mend your heart or make your ex come back to you, it will make your reason for living each day totally change!
if you ever need a chat just yell out!
goodluck and stay strong

[Stevie]

although having a baby wont mend your heart or make your ex come back to you, it will make your reason for living each day totally change!

:yeahthat:
well said!!
Sweetness, i know your days seem dark atm, but everything will work out the way its ment to. I know its easy enough for me to say "stay strong" but you you really have come to the right place to start, this plac and these ladies have helped me and many other women with all kinds of problems.
If you ever need to talk, im here
xxx