Ok, so DH and I are separating. I'll give details in another thread when I have time to sit and tell all (something I have not done before). So I need help, what do I need to do, where do I start. I'm worried he is going to get nasty... especially with regards to finances - I have been the major contributor to our relationship until Maternity Leave in July 09.

I guess I just don't want to get caught out. I'm new to all this and haven't been able to do research and I thought who best to ask than BB.

It was made final yesterday that this is what is happening. Our location and circumstances of living here make things harder. But any advice is welcome.

I'm sad for DD, I'm scared for my future - the unknown and being alone forever now that I have DD but I don't care what happens to me so long as I am the best mum for her. I have booked in to see a counsellor tomorrow, I think I need it as there has been a very long history in this relationship and I know i need to get some self worth and respect back and be at my best emotionally and mentally so I can be best mum. Although I'm scared, angry etc I can't help but feel a weight off my shoulders cos I'm finally getting off this horrible merry go round.

So throw any advice at me, big or small!

Thanks in advance.