thanks so much everyone and bg. Just to make it clear my brother and his girlfriend both want him on the birth cert. Just worried that the police can press charges without the parents request. It is a very horrible situation but they are both in it together and want to be a family. The law just wont let them. Bg i will def speak to legal aide today and get sil to put in a complaint about the worker. She has already seen the social worker who has said its ok if she doesnt know who the dad is. It is hurting her so much by not putting my brother on there cause they truley do love each other. Thanks again so so much xx